Barbara,

Healthy and happy is always the way to go! You handled (are handling the grow out very gracefully. I admire the length and how well you wear that too!

What is ultra cool is the many variations your hair went through - each one cool in its own way.....a glorious evolution!

Thank you for sharing your story!

Posted by morningstar on 07/03 at 02:23 AM

Barbara, you have had quite the journey so far.  I find it so unique that the front of your hair remained dark while the back was silver, it is almost always the other way around. Did you ever colour your hair at home?  The reason I ask is that with such length and thickness you would have had to use more than one box of colour! Wow, you are such an inspiration for those who love their long hair and want to keep it!! Thanks for sharing your story with us! By the way Barbara, I think you ARE a very patient lady indeed!

Posted by lulubell on 07/03 at 04:55 AM

WOW Barbara what a journey

I have a couple of questions. Did you notice after you stopped dying your hair that the thinning stopped? ( that is an issue for me) I too am a thyroid cancer survivor and often wonder if the hair thinning is part of that as well.

Do you in general find your hair healthier now.

I hope you are doing well after your thyroid journey

Katie

Posted by Katie on 07/03 at 05:03 AM

again i say this is why this has been such a great journey to see how different everyone else “turns out” !! oh yes you ARE patient!! look at your length!!
personally i think mother natures high lights look fantastic on you!!!

also i am so happy that this site has so many cancer survivors!!
thank you fro sharing your story!

Posted by louann on 07/03 at 05:49 AM

Thank you, Barbara for sharing you story!  It really is one of determination to let your real self shine!  After all, isn’t this what we all desire?  The ability to be our own individual self inside & out!  Lovely, long hair!!!

Posted by Goldie on 07/03 at 06:56 AM

Hi Morningstar,
Thanks a lot for your compliments!

The stages of growing my hair were interesting. It was surprising that I don’t have more white. 

It took time for me to embrace the changes as they evolved.

In retrospect, I don’t think I would have done anything differently if I knew then what I know now. 

“...glorious evolution...” your words are so kind.

Coincidentally, for you dog lovers out there, the kennel that my 2 Shiloh Shepherds are from is Glorious Shilohs. Therefore, Glorious Bobbie Z Bear and Glorious Bullwinkle X Moose. 

Happy 4th,
Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 07/03 at 10:51 AM

Hi Lulubell,
Journey, for sure. I can’t believe that I stuck with this white growth, but I knew what I wanted.  Since nothing more than looking in the mirror was involved, it was effortless...sort of. 

I just couldn’t bring myself to cut my hair any shorter than I normally wore it.  Now short and white hair might have been too much for me. 

I used to blow dry my hair straight.  That stopped too, thus the waves.

No, I’ve never colored my hair at home. It would have been a mess if I did.  I do trim it though. 

The dark front is weird, but I’ve noticed scattered whites there, thank goodness.  My growth pattern seems different than most as the white’s on top and there’s quite a bit of brown with a bit of whites below. It’ll be great when there’s more silver to see. 

You’re right, Lulubell. I guess in the end, I have patience for the important things.

Have a great holiday weekend,
Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 07/03 at 11:19 AM

Baebara~ Thanks for sharing your story.  You and your hair are gorgeous, very elegant. Never would have guessed your age.  Your pattern is very unique and very stiking at the same time.  I absolutely love that you kept the length.  What a patient woman you are, (even though you don’t think so) I admire that so much.

Posted by Aziza on 07/03 at 12:13 PM

Katie!
There ended up to be a few reasons why my hair thinned dramatically. 

One was menopause, especially while taking HRT.  Since I’m off the stuff, my hair has come back. 

While having it dyed, it either broke off or fell out even though my hairdresser was using a lower 
g;e product. Since that stopped, my hair has gotten thicker. 

And finally, there was the cancer.  May I ask what kind of thyroid cancer you had? Mine was papillary.  Was part or all of your organ removed? 

Since 1/2 my thyroid was removed where the cancer was found, I am taking Levothyroxine/Synthroid.  Are you on thyroid hormones?  My hair feels drier and coarser since then, so it seems that there’s a connection. But hey, I’m glad to be telling you this!

Did you have any treatment?  I hope you’re in fine health.

My recent blood work is excellent, thank G-d.  Thank you for asking. 

Happy 4th,
Barbara

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Posted by Barbara on 07/03 at 12:18 PM

Good afternoon Louann,
Thank you so much for you kind compliment!

It’s an interesting phenomenon that once one person discusses a health issue, they’re not alone.  It’s a comfort knowing that there are people who can share experiences. It’s another reason to feel connected.

Going natural was something that I felt alone about for years. It was made worse by those critical comments coming my way, but I knew, as we all know, what’s in our best interest.  Thank goodness that Mother Nature is kind.

Someday, I’ll probably cut my hair to my shoulders. Oh, I tried on a short, choppy wig awhile ago, and although I liked how it looked, I’m not ready for anything that extreme. 

ONE GIANT STEP FOR WOMANKIND ... at a time. 

Take care,
Barbara

This site is THE BEST!

Posted by Barbara on 07/03 at 12:27 PM

Happy Friday, Goldie!
Thank you for your compliment! 
Yup, life is not about conforming.
It’s nice to know that we do what we do for ourselves.

Thanks again,
Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 07/03 at 12:46 PM

Hi Aziza,

It’s my pleasure to tell my story here.  I’ve loved reading about the other women who have embarked on the same journey.
You are so sweet and kind and I really thank you for your compliments.  it means a lot to me.
I don’t think I’d recognize myself if I did a cut and no dyeing.  I do enjoy having long hair. I look forward to more whites coming in! 

Patience is something that I’ve never really had, or so I thought.  This experience has opened up a new look at myself.  Do you feel that way about yourself? 

Take care,
Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 07/03 at 12:53 PM

Barbara, thanks for sharing you story and photos...I think you, and your hair, are very beautiful indeed!

Posted by Underneath It All on 07/03 at 01:11 PM

Oh, absolutely!  I’ve learned so many things about myself during this journey.  I love the newfound freedom that I am experiencing as a result of leaving the bottle behind. Not just with my hair, but so many other things too. It has helped me to reevaluate a lot of things and helped me to make positive, healthy changes in my life. I had been contemplating quitting the dying process for many years.  But, my 3 children all got married really close to each other.  My boys weddings were 6 months apart and then my DD got married 20 months later.  I had really long hair too and I didn’t want to be going through the transition for the weddings and I didn’t want to cut it then either. Also, I didn’t want anyone to be wondering who that woman with the white hair was!  I didn’t want any attention to be drawn to me on her special day.  So, I waited until my DD got married and then I started this adventure.  But, I wasn’t very patient.  Couldn’t deal with the 2 tone, orangey hair, so I cut it short.  In addition to there being SO much white and being so short, it was really a shock. Even to me.  I had no idea there was that much white.  My kids had never seen my hair that short before.  But, I have to say that I am really loving the color and as it gets longer it only gets better.  I really wish I could have done it years before but knowing the kids weddings were coming, didn’t feel I could.  And, yes, many of us do have so many things in common.  I am also a thyroid patient.  I did not have cancer but I do have Hashimoto’s thyroiditis.  It was a long process getting my medication level correct for me before I started feeling better.  I am on the same medication as you.  My hair really thinned, but it has come back in although it did take quite awhile. Glad to hear you are doing better healthwise.

Posted by Aziza on 07/03 at 01:23 PM

Now that I’ve reread this note, I’d like to comment on a comment I made.

I said, “It’s nice to know that we do what we do for ourselves”.

I didn’t quite mean this the way it came out, so narcissistic.  Let me rephrase, please.

It’s nice to know that there are some things we do for ourselves. 

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 07/03 at 02:46 PM

Hello Underneath It All,

You are so kind and I thank you very much for your compliment.

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 07/03 at 02:54 PM

Barbara - Thanks so much for sharing your story.  Whenever I have days that I think I won’t be able to do this transition without chopping it all off, I’ll just think of your story.  (My hair is nowhere near as long as yours, but I still don’t want to cut it.) Your patience and perseverance is truly inspiring!  Even though your color pattern may be a bit unusual, it’s quite beautiful.  Isn’t it great to have a color that is unique to you?!  BTW, you have just stunning eyes - lovely color and shape!

Posted by jules on 07/03 at 03:51 PM

Hi Barbara

Thanks for getting back to me
I had the first side of my thyroid out as I had a large lump or goiter. It was pressing on my throat. Behind it they found a small piece of papillary cancer. The other side was left. I was never happy with that decision. I finally was referred to another endocrinologist closer to our home as we had moved. He could not believe they did not take the other side out. So Dec of 2005 we took it out. Good thing as there were 3 pieces of small cancer. I had RAI and am monitored. I am on .2 synthroid . I gained alot o
of weight and have a hard time losing it. I also find my hair is thinner. Good thing I had a lot. During my last ultra sound they found a lymph node was swollen so I have to go back in November for another Ultra Sound. BOY I hope that is nothing. I guess I just have to wait and see. After that news I stopped dying my hair ( April 6th) and I am waiting to be done. Unlike yourself I went for the chop.

I am glad to hear that you are doing well. Cancer can sure be mind altering. I am excited about my hair. LOL .

Katie

Posted by Katie on 07/03 at 04:23 PM

Congratulations, Aziza, on all of your kids’ weddings. Wow, you must be tired by now. Are they close in age? Live nearby? It must have been an amazing time for you and your family.

Holding off on your transition until an appropriate time makes a lot of sense.  The bottle became my friend in preparation for my parent’s 50th anniversary party way back when. Family can sometimes be brutal. 

How wonderful to have such revelations and insights into your life.  It takes strength to do that. 

Yeah, that growing-out, two-toned and orangey stage can be very disheartening. 

Did my in-depth research into all things thyroid, so I know about Hashimoto’s.  I’m so glad to know that your med is now at the right dosage. It was terrible being on the wrong dosage. How did you hair thinning correlate to the meds?

Have a great weekend!
Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 07/03 at 04:36 PM

Words we can live by: 

“THE ENDS JUSTIFY THE MEANS”. 

xoxoxox
Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 07/03 at 07:04 PM

Barbara, Thank you so much for sharing your story & journey.  Your hair is gorgeous - I love that you kept it long.  Alot of people think that when you reach a certain “age” and are gray that you need to cut your hair short.  I do not agree.  I too have a thyroid problem.  I have gone through menopause and am on hormone replacement & also Synthyoid medication.  Within the last couple of weeks my doctor increased my Synthyroid medicine and I do feel better.  My hair also feels thinner - but I am hoping that I am going in the right direction since my hair it starting to feel healthier.  I think, Barbara, that you mentioned that you had been on hormone replacement medication - do you mind saying why you are no longer taking it?  I am always interested in knowing why people stop taking or continue taking.  Thanks for any advice that you can give me.

Posted by grayme on 07/03 at 07:09 PM

Hey, Just wanted to mention about female family comments.  My sister in law is here for the weekend.  We get along really great but I know she does not particularly care for gray hair.  Today we were in a small boutique looking at jewelry and she asked me if I wore gold or silver earrings -I told her that I wear silver earrings - I giggled - and said that the silver earrings matched my hair!  She giggled and said that I could change that (meaning my hair color) if I wanted to.  I let it go after giggling again.  I am striving to become more confident in my self in this journey.  I guess that is why I love to come here - I find comfort and friendship among fellow GGLGers.

Posted by grayme on 07/03 at 07:15 PM

Hi Jules,
I am flattered that you’d look to my story. I appreciate your compliments so much.

It’s funny that you should comment on my eye color.  Thank you again.  I always loved what white hair looks like with light colored eyes.  Although I’ve never worn contact lenses, I was planning on trying colored contact lenses this Tuesday as part of my exam. Just not sure I can mess with my eyes. 

I can only tell you that if you don’t want to cut your hair, DON’T.  Make yourself happy. Your silver will be as long as it is, no matter what the length!  Part of the reason that I left the length was because I probably have too much ego wrapped up in my hair. 

I’ve got to get a shot of my hair in a ponytail.  Then you’ll really see how weird it is. It’s like I have two heads of hair with different color and different texture on top and below. The white is definitely more dry, wiry and fragile.

Thanks so much,
Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 07/03 at 07:27 PM

Oh dear Katie, you’ve been through so much. I’m so sorry and hope for the best for you.

During a parathyroidectomy, the surgeon removed 1/2 of my thyroid.  Here’s the kicker.  It was biopsied because of a nodule, and was negative. Whoops. The news was shocking. 

You must have been very upset with your new doctor’s comment about removing the other side. Lucky that you found this doctor. 

How large was your goiter?  Since it was pressing on your throat, did it bother you?  Effect swallowing?  I’ve got a clicking when I swallow now. 

Weight gain and difficulty losing it, check. 

What’s RAI?  How are you being monitored?

I am so hoping that there’s nothing to be concerned about in November. 

Katie, you’re a brave gal. 

Regards,
Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 07/03 at 08:12 PM

Good evening, Grayme!
Thanks for your kind compliments. I thought, silver, okay.  Short, not so okay. I wouldn’t know what to do with it. Who made up the hair color and length rules? 

Prometrium and Cenestin were the HRT meds that my internist prescribed and I felt better.  Endocrinologist then suggested that because of many serious side effects, adverse reactions and contraindications, to stop.  Please go to rxlist.com and you’ll see what I mean. It’s a balancing act. 

I’m so glad that upping your Synthroid helped. Being on the wrong dosage is terrible. 

Your reaction to your sister-in-law’s direct and passive-aggressive comments was so perfect.  The giggling must have been fantastic! Your comment about jewelry matching your hair is priceless! Yup, I’m with ‘ya!

Bye bye,
Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 07/03 at 09:09 PM

Barbara you look stunning.  Your eyes are beautiful and your hair accentuates them.

I am inspired by your bravey for what you have gone through with your health.

I took the easy way out and went for very short and choppy and graduated within about 5 months!  What you did was sooo right for you though - it’s unique to you, no one else can ever copy it and I think it’s gorgeous.

Debs

Posted by Debs on 07/04 at 12:39 PM

Happy Independence Day, Debs,

Thanks a million for your lovely compliments! I am very flattered. Knowing that there are women who have the same dedication and sensibility to doing the right thing(s) for themselves, makes me so happy. During these years, I have looked in the mirror and wondered. Hm.......

How long was your hair before your transition?  For a long time?  Five months sounds fantastic.  I think it took a lot of chutzpah to chop off your hair. It’s a beautiful look and definitely adds sophistication and brightens. 

These health issues have been cropping up since I turned 50.  I won’t go into any gory details, but they’ve made me appreciate my life and those who have shared it with me.  I feel lucky that they have been fixable.

Then there’s the weight issue.  Meds, menopause, maturing.
I am in the process of taking control of that area of my life, but it’s a struggle. I’m on the mend from three foot procedures and walking any real distance has been very painful. This too shall pass. 

I think about my Dad who died in October after suffering traumatic brain injury. There was nothing that could have been done to save him.  Granted, he was 86 when he passed away, but he was a trooper. 

Part of the reason why I decided to go natural years ago was because of his gorgeous head of hair. Mine will never be as smooth and soft as his. 

OK.  I have to cry now.

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 07/04 at 04:54 PM

Hi Barbara

I’ve never had really long hair.  I have never been able to grow it past my shoulders partly because I have been dying it since my early 20’s and as it got longer the condition of it was awful.  My hair is very fine, although I have a lot of it and it’s quite curly as it grows.  If I’m honest I think I have always been too impatient to let it grow

Posted by Debs on 07/05 at 08:41 AM

Barbara your hair is stunning and it is nice that you have an unusual pattern of white - that’s what I love about going natural, we all get something that is uniquely ‘ours’, no hairdresser could do something so amazing. I love your curls too.

Posted by Sharon on 07/06 at 03:42 PM

Hi Debs,
Impatience is sometimes a thorn in our sides, for good and otherwise. 

Really, thick, fine and curly sounds fantastic! 

Don’t you wish things could have been completed yesterday?

Imagining the big picture has been incentive over the years. 

My only regret (sort of) is that I didn’t let all of my hair grow naturally at once.  I think it would have taken half the time to get here. 

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 07/07 at 10:35 AM

Hi Barbara

My goiter was 3 inches by 2.5. Large enough to push on my throat that is for sure. RAI is radioactive iodine treatment. Thyroid Cancers chemo. Not fun that is for sure.

It is interesting how many thyroid ladies think their hair is thinner. HMMMM I suggest there is a direct connection. My hair also feels so much better. So hopefully with not dying it and the fish oil and a better diet it will be okay.  Weight gain is not fun either SIGH.

I get a haircut on the 21st. So I am hoping it will be the last one before I will start growing my hair. We shall see.
It is always fun to wonder what is going to happen.

Thanks for your comments

Take care
Katie

Posted by Katie on 07/07 at 10:47 AM

Hi Katie,
Now that was some goiter you had. Wow. 

What were the effects of it pushing on your throat?  Did you have any clicking when swallowing?  I have that now - doc said that it is thyroid cartilege. 

I had a sestamibi scan for hyperparathyroidism. Radioactive iodine was used to locate the adenoma, and once it was removed, my PTH dropped 75% right into the normal range. 

Did RAI have any side effects?  Because of the size and nature of my thyroid cancer and surrounding tissue, I didn’t have to have chemo.

‘Ya gotta post pictures of your new cut!  The 21st is quickly approaching. Do you have anything specific in mind?  It’s pretty exciting!!

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 07/09 at 02:50 PM

Hi Barbara~ Just now catching up on my reading.  Thanks for your note. And thanks for the congrats, too.  Yes, it was tiring at the time.  But life just keeps plugging along.  In answer to your questions, my boys are 21 months apart and then 26 months later my DD came along.  My oldest and his wife live 8 minutes away.  They are expecting a little boy in about 3 weeks.  My 2nd son and his wife live about 50 minutes away and they have an 8 1/2 month old, my little “honey boy”. My DD and her husband live about 70 minutes away.  No kids, yet.  I also have 3 precious grandbabies in heaven.  As louann likes to say, “life happens when you are making plans”.  There has never been a dull moment here, that’s for sure. But, I have learned to appreciate what I do have.  As for the hair thinning, you know, it’s hard to say.  I’d been coloring for so long.  Between that and my thyroid disease, it’s hard to say about the thinning.  I just know that once my meds were correct my hair started to come back in.  I’ve always had thick hair but it was coming out in the handfuls.  Now, I could probably count the hairs in my drain, they are so few.  Probably a combination of the meds and stopping the coloring.  Have a great weekend too! A week later. 

Posted by Aziza on 07/10 at 06:42 AM

Hope you have a great weekend, too, Aziza.

Having your grandkids nearby sounds wonderful. Are you the self-appointed sitter? 

My kid sister is having a baby boy who’s due in mid-August. He is going to be the only grandchild from the three of us sisters.  Yeah, I’m sure I’ll be mistaken for his grandma.

I am so sorry about your grandbabies in heaven.

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 07/10 at 08:58 AM

Hi Barbara
Thank you for your great story.  The last pic asks to tell it - brunette or semi silver?
I’ll comne right our and say it - silver, definitely! The texture, style and colour of your hair is dramatic and flattering.
Best wishes for your continued good health too x

Posted by silverlake on 07/11 at 07:11 AM

Hi Silverlake, and many thanks to you.  I’m enjoying my semi-silver.

It’s pretty dry on top where most of the silver is. I haven’t been able to find a product that effectively smooths and shines it. The darker underneath growth is far nicer.  Too bad I can just walk around on my hands! 

Might you or anyone who’s reading this have any proven suggestions?  I have to go back to GGLG to review the products.

Hoping you’re having a great weekend,
Barbara

Where can I see the members album?

Posted by Barbara on 07/11 at 06:14 PM

Hi Barbara
My family (except me) all has curly/prone to frizy hair.  They like ‘Milk Shake’ Glistening shampoo for frizz control, it is oil based and leaves the hair kind of damp looking, it lets natural curls set into ringlets rather than that frizz thing.  They use a wide tooth comb or fingers to separate it all after washing then dry naturally (don’t know if that’s an option with your long hair, but looking at your pics, I bet you’d get gorgeous ringlets).  They use John Frieda Frizz ease serum (max strength) and HEMPZ Shine spray for glistening finish (you only need one little spritz).  The products are for women or men, I just googled & I think they are on sale through websites in the US. Good luck (& it has to be better than walking round on your hands!)
PS I just have to say you have great eyebrows!

Posted by silverlake on 07/12 at 02:18 AM

oh and meant to say the whole point of last post was to say they think those products really condition the hair… even the dry sun bleached result of surfing and washing hair with washing up liquid on holiday (apprently it was cheaper and less to bother with when camping - boys!).

Posted by silverlake on 07/12 at 02:22 AM

To see the members album, make sure your on the home page of GGLG, be signed in, and it should be on the very upper right hand side of the webpage underneath Members.  Hope that helps!

Posted by SBKaren on 07/13 at 06:19 PM

Hi Barbara
Sorry I did not get back to you quickly. Summer is busy.

Lets see. The haircut I am getting will be similar to what I have just shorter. Over the ears. The top will probably be shorter than I want it to be to get rid of all the colour. Hopefully this cut will get it all. Who knows. Then I will begin the journey of growing it. I think LOL LOL

We shall see.

The thyroid journey is interesting that is for sure.
Life

Katie

Posted by Katie on 07/14 at 07:03 AM

Barbara, This is for you!  I think I remember you asking about braids.  This is gorgeous.  I’m betting yours would look lovely too.  You may have to cut and paste this link in your browser for it to work. 
Ed note: Hate to be a killjoy, but please do not post flickr pics on this site. There are legal reasons, and we do not have consent from these women. Thanks.

Posted by Aziza on 07/20 at 09:44 AM

Hey AZIZA,
By the way, I love your name! 
Millions of thanks for thinking of me and sending the link! Beautiful!!

I took the plunge in public.  Braided my hair when I took the dogs out for their rather short walks. (I’m still on the mend after foot surgery.)

I’ve got two big, beautiful Shiloh Shepherds and need to be completely aware of our surroundings.  This is another dog-walking-hair-style!

Hi KATIE,
I know you’re going to think I’m nuts, but I really like when there are some old ends left.  They add interest and texture.  Of course, that’s not true for my hair, but much more for short, choppy cuts, especially pixies.

How did your cut go?  I hope you like it!

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 07/21 at 02:33 PM

Barbara~ Thanks!   I immediately thought of you when I saw those gorgeous braids.  Good for you for giving it a try.  I’ll bet it was absolutely beautiful.  How’s the foot recovery coming along?

Posted by Aziza on 07/21 at 06:37 PM

Hi Aziza,

I’m trying to expand possibilities with my hair. 
The one braid down the back is not possible since I can’t reach around to do it. Single side braid seems too contrived.  School marm bun, loosely wound, is good as is a high ponytail.  Now, all I have to do it do them.

When I pull just the top and side hair back into a clip it’s interesting since it’s white in the clip and the rest is darker.

Thanks a lot for asking about the foot recovery.  It’s certainly better, but I continue to tape the areas due to swelling, redness and tenderness.  Once all of this nonsense is complete, I’m going to click my heels, jump for joy, dance the Irish jig and have a graduation party.  This is just the most recent surgery I’ve had in the past few years due to osteoporosis, arthritis and wearing heels for years. 

Shesh. 

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 07/23 at 01:37 PM

Those heels are real killers!  I think heels actually were invented for men, they wore em’ once & gave em’ to women!!!

Keep on that road to recovery Barbara!  I want a picture of you doin’ that Irish jig!  (I LOVE Irish dancing!!)

Posted by Goldie on 07/23 at 01:43 PM

Me too, I love dancing of all kinds!  The highest heel I’ve ever worn was a cute shoe with a kitten heel. Barbara I was diagnosed with osteoporosis 3 years ago and then if that wasn’t enough I was diagnosed with osteo-arthritis just last summer.  So far I have only had “flare-ups” in my hips, knees and sometimes my fingers.  May I ask what your surgery was for??  I hope you wear flat shoes when you dance your jig!! 

Posted by lulubell on 07/23 at 01:52 PM

Hey Goldie,
Thanks!  I’m trying my best and the podiatrist is happy with my progress.

Men wearing heels?  Hahahaha.  That’s a good one. I think wearing a tie must be traumatic enough for men. 

Isn’t it true that if we knew then what we know now, we would have done things at least a bit different? I think I would have reconsidered all the times I wore heels.

I have no idea how women are able to wear those pumps with skinny, pointy toes. And then walk in them!  For more than a few steps!!  They’ll keep podiatrists busy.

I’ve spent the last 2 1/2 months wearing an ugly orthopedic shoe thing with velcro on my right foot.  I’ve progressed to a limited time wearing some Mephistos.  Loafers, not yet. The last time I word heels was 10 years ago.  I feel so short. 

Isn’t Irish dancing incredible? Me doing it?  I’ll follow in your footsteps. 

Hi Lulubell,
I do some dancing in the bedroom and the car. 

Kitten heel?  What’s that?  I don’t know how old you are but maybe you remember ‘Queen Anne’ heels.  I was so jealous of my sister who was allowed to wear them.  Her’s were pink. 

We’re both in the same boat with osteoporosis and osteoarthritis. My hyperparathyroid made my osteopenia worse although my bone density has improved a bit in the past two years. 1500 mg calcium and 400 mg vitamin D. 

I’m so sorry about your flare-ups. What do you do?  Take any meds? 

My latest surgeries were for three issues.  One was to remove a neuroma.  One was to remodel a toe joint and one was to remove part of a toe bone to reshape a toe.  The last two were arthritis and osteopenia related.

Sheesh.  Flat shoes for sure!

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 07/24 at 01:57 PM

Ooo...I like kitten heels...I believe they were made popular in the 1950’s.  Usually about 1-1.5 inches high.  They curve inward. I love them in a mule shoe..they make a trip-trap, trip-trap sound when you walk! (No sneaking around in these shoes!) They remind of me of the plastic princess shoes I used to wear as a girl…

Great for chic lounging around a pool with a big floppy hat!

Posted by Goldie on 07/24 at 02:09 PM

Kitten heels are so girlie, I love them!  Never heard of Queen Anne heels!  Barbara when I get flare-ups in the joints of my hips, knees or fingers they become inflamed which in turn causes pain, even some swelling sometimes. For the most part I manage with xtra-strength advil, no major pain medication yet which I am thankful for.  The flare-ups don’t usually last too long and they seem to occur when I try to do too much.  I was a dance and fitness instructor for a number of years and that took its toll on my hips and knees, the fingers are a mystery to me. I too have a neuroma in my right foot, which luckily has not bothered me very much since I gave up my classes.  I hope your recovery is a speedy one and I agree.....flat shoes only!

Posted by lulubell on 07/24 at 02:34 PM

Barbara, Do you still have the same “longer” hairstyle or have you had it trimmed?  I am due for a trim this Friday - trying to maintain a longer hairstyle (to my shoulders is about as long as I can go.)

Posted by grayme on 07/27 at 07:30 AM

Yes, Grayme, I do still have the same length.  To tell you the truth, I don’t consider my hair a style.  It just is what it is, one length and wavy. 

I snip off a bit every few weeks and have noticed less orange fuzz in the sink, so that’s good. 

If going to a professional wouldn’t involve justifying my color and length, I’d probably go. But, you know how they can be. I can’t be intimidated into cutting or coloring in anyway that I wouldn’t like, and so it could end up to be something that I’ll regret. 

Let me know how your trim goes.  I looked at lots of pictures of my transition and once again I am amazed that I left the length. 

Looking forward!

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 07/27 at 11:28 PM

Lulubell,
I must have constant flare-ups because I’m taking Celebrex, daily.  I guess it helps.
It’s good to know that you are able to control the pain with otc meds. 
And the fact that the neuroma isn’t giving you trouble is great.  My podiatrist tried two conservative treatments and when neither worked, surgery was the last resort. 

I first noticed painful finger joints before anything else.  I just think it’s a common site.
Unfortunately, babying the painful areas is the way to go in many cases.  Sheesh.

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 07/27 at 11:43 PM

Hello Barbara, I agree, the fingers do seem to be quite a common site, many others have told me the same thing.  Acupuncture “really” helped with my neuroma and, of course, knowing when enough is actually enough and staying off of my feet when there is pain!

Posted by lulubell on 07/28 at 05:41 AM

Hi Lulubell,
Fingers, yup. In the near future, I’ll have to have rings remade with those hinges where the entire ring opens like a bangle bracelet. I’ve already started looking into that. 

I never thought of acupuncture for the neuroma. It feels like my toes and neuroma are good.  I’ve worn regular sandals without socks for the past few days.  Woo hoo.

How soon after acupuncture did your neuroma feel better?

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 07/28 at 01:30 PM

Hello Barbara!  My neuroma caused my three middle toes to completely lose all feeling and they felt numb, with that pins and needles buzz that was with me constantly.  It almost seemed to be worse when I was off of my feet. I had 6 weeks of acupuncture (twice a week) so 12 sessions in all.  I felt a difference almost immediately after the first week.  By the end of the session it was almost non-existent providing I wore good shoes and treated my feet with respect which meant giving up teaching my dance and fitness classes.  There are so many other ways to stay in shape and still be kind to your body. 

Posted by lulubell on 07/28 at 01:58 PM

Oh gee, Lulubell.  My two affected toes felt the same way as yours.  I had one more symptom, heat.  I loved using ice packs, having my foot on slate and marble floors and having a cool evening breeze blowing on it.

If I ever develop another one of these things, and I hope I don’t, I will certainly look into acupuncture. 

I have to lose weight and get into shape - maybe with the help of a physical therapist since now I don’t know when to push myself and when not to.

What’s your opinion about other ways to go?  Elliptical?

How do you feel about not teaching your classes?

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 07/29 at 01:08 PM

Hi Barbara!  I have an exercise bicycle and a power rider in my basement, they are wonderful for hanging up my winter coats in the summer and piling up my patio chair cushions in the winter!     I am one of those women who needs to be motivated by others in a group setting or at least have a buddy system set in place in order to exercise.  My best friend and I joined Curves together and it has turned out to be exactly what the doctor ordered, I love it!  Ideally I try to go 3 times a week, no less than 2 for sure.  I have a wonderful Diana Krall CD that I listen to every evening while doing various stretches and yoga like movements .  I go into the spare room, dim the lights, turn on the music, stretch, breath and relax for the duration of the CD.  That’s about it, other than trying to get out for a walk whenever I can!  It has been almost 10 years since I gave up teaching my classes, I am in completely different place in my life now, however, I would love to be able to move the way I did in “those” days.  Google Curves and see if it may be a possibility for you, I think you would really enjoy it because you work at your own pace, there are no expectations at all. 

Posted by lulubell on 07/30 at 07:06 AM

Hi Lulubell,
Sorry it took so long for me to respond, but I thought that I did. Senior moment for sure. 

Yup, exercise bike = place to hang stuff. 

I’m going to look into Curves once walking is easier for me! 

Thanks,
Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 08/03 at 11:36 AM

Hi Barbara
I’m a new member here.  I’m a member of the Renegrays at LHC.

I am in my 50s and have been going white since about 25 and have waist length hair with long silver streaks mostly at the front with a few showing themselves in the back.

I just wanted to say I think you hair looks beautiful and it is so nice to find other women out there with longhair that have decided to let the gray/white do its own thing and stay long. 

I totally relate to the “skunk stripe”, mine is so noticable when I pull my hair back.

I don’t know whether my hair will ever totally change as its been over 20 years since I saw my first whites and its been a long slow process.

Posted by Karpatii on 08/06 at 01:26 PM

Hi Karpatii,
Gotta look at the Renegrays at LHC.  Do you have a website? 

Have you been told that women in their 50s shouldn’t have long hair? Never passed your shoulders?  Asked when are you going to cut it?  Color it or you’ll look old?  You’re not 18 any more.

I get it from family members whose hair is not all that terrific. It’s so ridiculous. 

Have you always had such long hair?  Have you posted any pictures?  I’d love to see what it/you look like.  Your hair sounds stunning. 

Thanks for the compliment!  Having the white come in is like watching the grass grow when it’s not cut short. 

I think that the skunk stripe phase is the worst part. Now imagine that happening three times all at different lengths! If you look at my picture of the back of my head you’ll see it. 

Do you wear your hair pulled back a lot?  In a ponytail? 

What do you mean about your hair changing? 

S L O W for sure!

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 08/06 at 06:18 PM

Hi Barbara

Yes, I’ve heard it all since about the age of 30.  I don’t know why people think that women over the age of 30 shouldn’t have long hair and should colour it at the first sign of gray/silver.  I’ve managed to ignore all such comments and have had long hair all my life and don’t intend cutting or colouring it.

You must come and see us at the LHC.  Nice group of people.
Here is a link to the Salt and Pepper Thread on the forum where the Renegrays chat.
http://forums.longhaircommunity.com/showthread.php?p=711438&posted=1#post711438.  Do come and visit us you wouold be very welcome.  If this link doesn’t work Diana has put a link to the website on the home page here just look for the Salt and Pepper Thread. Lots of pictures on the thread. We’ve been helping Goldie with her letter collection.

By change I mean its taking a long time for my silvers to come through - its been over 25 years since they first started showing themselves.  Very slow.

I wear my hair in half ups and buns using sticks and Flexi 8s.

Lovely to chat to you.

Posted by Karpatii on 08/07 at 07:45 AM

Barbara, I would like to ask how you handle comments (sometimes just a look) in regards to your hair.  You seem so confidant.

Posted by grayme on 08/08 at 12:16 PM

Hi Grayme,
Here’s the thing. The only person whose opinion I care about is my husband’s.

No matter what anyone else says, passive-aggressively, patronizingly or sarcastically, what they think, or how they may look at my hair in ‘that’ way, I simply don’t care.

It’s my head, my hair, unique, and the bottom line is that I LIKE IT! 

I do get compliments and that’s nice and appreciated. With regard to the rare negative comments, I tell my sisters or mother (ahem ) that when their hair looks as nice as mine, we’ll discuss.  Otherwise, it’s not up for discussion, smile, tell them I’m sorry that they feel that way, smile, comment that they can wear their hair the way they want and I’ll do the same, smile. 

Oh, I’ve got loads of ‘em! 

I like the fact that I have come to this place.

Thanks, Grayme for asking,
Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 08/08 at 01:12 PM

Hi Barbara

I so agree with what you said in your reply to Grayme, that much how I feel as well.

You really should come and visit us at LHC, Renegrays.

This link should take you to our thread on the forum to a page where I have posted some pictures of my hair.
http://forums.longhaircommunity.com/showthread.php?p=711438&posted=1#post711438

Regards
Karpatii

Posted by Karpatii on 08/09 at 10:34 AM

Barbara, Thanks for the response!  You know, it is great to hear that your husband is very supportive - mine is too.  He is the only one that really matters in my book.  Have a great afternoon!

Posted by grayme on 08/09 at 12:57 PM

Grayme,
Does your husband have gray hair?  Mine doesn’t except for a very few strays.  It makes it even more interesting.  And since he’s been “retired” (ha that’s pretty funny as he’s never worked harder - it’s his company which makes a difference) he’s let it grow.  Love it!
Maybe people think I’m his mother?! 

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 08/19 at 01:01 PM

Hi Barbara !

I do the same , after cancer diagnosed ,
coloring came to an abrupt end .

Good luck to you !

Kindly regards

Rhea

Posted by Rhea on 08/20 at 01:05 AM

Barbara - I don’t think that you would be mistaken for his mother!  You are too young and beautiful!  My husband has salt and pepper - there is not much salt or pepper on top, though.  He loves me the way I am and my feeling for him is the same.  His mother was visiting last year and made a comment about how “they” say that gray hair is the new blonde - that it is becoming more “in” - she said that gray is not for her!!!  (She was directing this comment towards me in what she thought was very suttle.) My husband’s comment was that he was in fashion because he has had gray hair for a while.

Posted by grayme on 08/20 at 07:31 AM

grayme,
If I tell people that I’m his mother, won’t they think I look great for my age? 

My mother says things that are so passive-aggressive, inappropriate and none of her business. And so do my sisters, but less frequently.

My mother also uses “they say” or “they think”.  This way she’s not quite telling me that she doesn’t like my hair - which she doesn’t, because it’s long and natural.  She has also used the phrase, “it’s not for me” when really referring to my natural hair.

Your husband’s hip!

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 08/22 at 08:47 PM

Hi gals,

After letting my driver’s license expire for months, I finally went to the DMV to get it renewed.

Interestingly, I no longer have to have corrective lenses. I don’t know how that happened, but I passed the eye test. 

Of course, there’s a place for hair color.  I excitedly left it blank since I really didn’t know what to write.  When I got to the window, the gal who took care of me had beautiful white and gray hair.  I told her my problem. Salt and pepper? Semi-silver? Brown and white? Nope, it had to be one color. But which one? 

The gal at window #13 made the decision since she was the expert.  BROWN. Brown? Brown. But look at the whites?  Brown. 

I’m not sure how I feel about this.

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 08/26 at 05:25 PM

Just had to take a moment out of our Italy vacation to shoot a note to my favorite gals.

Not many silver haired women here along the Amalfi Coast. 

While walking around Positano the other day, one of our Positnesi friends found us because of my hair. It’s just about all grown in and it is quite noticeable.  It’s on the humid side here and so it’s rather full, thick and frizzy.  “I saw your hair and knew you were here”, he said. 

Used the hair dryer to straighten it a few times and really liked it on the smooth side.

My question:  Can anyone suggest/recommend a great dryer for the least amount of damage?  Ionic ... do they work? 

Ciao bellas,
Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 10/24 at 02:57 AM

Barbara~ Just looking at your pictures again and noticed in the back view picture that you do indeed have different lengths of gray showing. Just out of curiosity, how many inches do you have left before you are fully transitioned?  Your hair is just so beautiful and so long.

Posted by Aziza on 11/02 at 04:09 PM

Thank you, Aziza. 

I’d say that I have about 1"/1-2 months to be fully transitioned.

Recently took some pics of the back of my head, but lighting wasn’t good so it’s hard to really tell.  Also, I’ll blow dry it straight to really see what’s what back there.

How was your Halloween? 
Can’t believe that Thanksgiving is in a little over three weeks!

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 11/03 at 10:36 AM

Hi Barbara,
WOW!!  I am so jealous you are in Italy.  It is so beautiful there.  I have never been to the Amalfi coast.  Someday I’ll get there.  Last summer we went to Lake Como for two weeks.  Just love it there.  Anywhere in Italy would be great.  Enjoy your trip!!.

I use an ionic dryer with a diffuser.  I like this one best so far.  I use low to medium heat.  Takes a bit longer to dry but I try not to use the drier that much.  I couldn’t even think how long it would take me to straighten mine.  How long does it take you? 

You look fabulous!!  Like you I am trying not to cut my hair but it keeps breaking off at the ends and seems to just keep getting shorter?  Have you had problems with dryness?  Suggestions? 
Carol Anne

Posted by Carol A. on 11/04 at 04:48 PM

Hi Carol Anne,
I agree with you about Italy.  I’ve never been to a city that I didn’t love and want to return to. Lake Como is fabulous and two weeks, well, sounds heavenly. We became friendly with some of the locals here, and they’re so welcoming and warm. 

Ten years ago, we were invited to a friend’s wedding in Scalea.  The day before, his family had everyone to their home who came from out of the country.  It was one of the finest days I’ve ever spent.  Just remarkable people.  The wedding was in a 13th century church.  To make it even more special, my husband and I were part of the wedding ceremony.  I don’t know what it’s called but each of us lit a candle at the alter.

I do have an ionic dryer, but can’t find the diffuser (of course).  I can’t tell if it’s really not damaging my hair as I’ve used it so infrequently. I used to use a regular drier, but it was just too much.

I put my hair in a bun for at least an hour after it’s washed.  That takes some of the frizz out.  I let it air dry which takes all day.  If I use the dryer, it takes 10 - 15 minutes or so. 

Is it the colored part that’s breaking off?  Or your natural hairs too?  I know that natural hair is very fragile.  Do you use your fingers, pick or comb? 

My ends are very dry too and so I apply a bit more leave in conditioner. It usually makes them feel sticky though. Nothing seems to work - shampoo, rinse out or leave in conditioner. 

I snip my ends about every two weeks - just about 1/4” to remove some of the really bad stuff. 

It was suggested to me to use olive oil overnight although I’ve never done that. Also, use a good conditioner before shampooing or overnight moisturizing masks. 

I’m sure that I could use at least a good 2” taken off the length for it to be considerably better.  I’m just too scared to try out a stylist since they’re generally scissor and color happy. I’m sure there are good ones out there, but I don’t want to find out the hard way. 

Whites are so much drier than the browns which are really nice.

What ionic dryer to do you use??

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 11/04 at 06:02 PM

Hi Barbara,

The dryer is “Ion Color Brilliance” from Tourmaline.  Not sure if this helps.  I got it at a beauty supply store.  It came with the diffuser and I only use it with the diffuser.  Yes, I use my fingers to comb my hair or a wide toothed comb but only when it is wet.  It does seem that it is mostly the colored and ends that are breaking off.  Very badly and I know I should just cut my hair to make it healthier, but I would rather have my longer hair than cut it off.  I cannot fathom cutting my hair short because it is my “security blanket”.  I know this sounds silly to most, but I am sure you can relate with hairdressers wanting to cut our curls off.  Why is that?  I secretly think they are so jealous and hate the fact someone can have such thick long curls.  Either that or they just cannot understand how to deal with our hair.  Have you read “curly girls”?  I don’t remember the author but such good info for us. 

Are you back at home now?  Hope you enjoyed your trip to Italy!!!  Ciao Bella.

Posted by Carol A. on 11/09 at 07:23 PM

Hey there Carol A!
I’m going to look into that dryer and thanks for the information.  Most of the hairdryers I’ve bought over the years came with diffusers, but I never used them. 

If I use a comb too close in time when my hair is almost dry, it becomes a pyramid on my head.

Did your stylist use a particularly harsh product when coloring your hair?  Mine supposedly didn’t but I too lost hair in the process. Breakage seems to move up the hair shaft so maybe a tiny trim once in awhile would work.

Believe me, I totally understand hair being something of a ‘security blanket’ or something else equally important. My guess is that this website and the book wouldn’t exist if most of us didn’t have strong feelings about their that feeling. It’s part of who we are. 

Hairdressers frighten me. I think that they don’t like it when women go against the prevailing idea of beauty.  Silver?  Curly?  Double whammy for them - not us of course. 

I went into a salon today and asked for a conditioner for dry, wavy, sometimes frizzy silver hair.  I could see her surprise as she gave me a ‘once over’.

I am home from Italy.  It was fantastico!  Great weather, interesting sites, yummy food and wine and great shopping! 

No, I haven’t read or heard of “curly girls”.. What is it?  Sounds like required reading!

Ciao bella right back at ‘ya,
Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 11/10 at 04:52 PM

Hi Barbara,

I always use a leave in conditioner.  ABBA makes a good one called “Nourishing”.  I usually by in bulk on e-bay.  I sometime also use NEXXUS Humectrus conditioner.  I do leave it on my hair and use a wide tooth comb when wet only, no combing when going from wet to dry. 

I am also afraid of hairdressers.  They just don’t understand.  I trim my own hair in the shower, when it is wet, one curl at a time.  I usually did my color myself.  When I started to transition, I had a “bad” hairdesser do chunky highlights.  As you can see from a couple of pictures, they turned orange and went limp like spaghetti.  Then she did something called a glaze (I think) which totally ruined my hair.  Oh, what a nightmare.  Needless to say that is why I will always continue to do my own hair.  Thank goodness I don’t need to color it anymore.  Now I just concentrate on keeping it healthy so it can grow long again.  Patience, Patience, Patience. 

Glad you had a good time and are back home safely.  Carol

Posted by Carol A. on 11/10 at 09:05 PM

Oh, I forgot, “Curly Girls” is the name of a book.  I can’t find it at the moment and forget the author.  Maybe someone else can help with more info on this book. 

Posted by Carol A. on 11/10 at 09:06 PM

Carol A.,
I’ll have to try the conditioners you mentioned. If I had the energy and knew where the receipts are, I’d return the ones that have done nothing. I must have a dozen, some leave-in some rinse out. I leave the rinse out ones in for a few minutes to an hour. Then I have some serums that are supposed to smooth out hair and leave the curl. None seem to work as they claim.

I was wondering how glazes work.  I used to have cellophane treatments which did add shine, but that was when my hair was naturally brown.  Sorry to hear about what happened to you. 

Did you check out ‘Diana does silverizing’?  She got beautiful results. I don’t think it’s for salt and pepper. 

Patience is right.

I’ll Google Curly Girls…

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 11/11 at 12:24 AM

Hi Barbara,

Yes, I think glaze is for shine, but also has chemicals.  That hairdresser had me come back a week later to do another one.  I don’t usually go to hairdressers so naturally I trusted her.  My hair turned so dry and hasn’t stopped breaking off since.  That was about a year ago.  Not to say the glazing is what is making my hair break off, but I was so clueless at the time and just trusted her.  DUH!!

Yes, I have seen Diana does silverizing.  Great results, but I think you are right, maybe not for salt and pepper. 

I use the Matirx for silver hair shampoo and also they have an oil spray for sun protection that I use.  I get really good results so far.  No yellow yet.  That makes me afraid to try new things though.  I also sometimes use just plain organic coconut oil on the ends of my hair at night and leave it in overnight and rinse out in the morning.  It makes my hair softer at the ends.  I also use Phytonectar.  Just a bit, but you have so much more hair than I do.  Oh my, you might use the whole bottle in one or two sessions.  Anyway, I love the Phytonectar. It gives good moisture and protiens to your hair.  The Phytonectar and Coconut Oil I sometimes use for shine but just a little.

Take care Barbara.

Posted by Carol A. on 11/11 at 09:03 PM

Hi Carol A.,
I’m sure you’re right about the glaze having chemicals.  What a terrible experience you had.  I’m so sorry about that.

Hey, never trust anyone with a scissor, squeeze bottle and paint brush in her/his hand!

Many years ago when my hair was all brown, I had clear cellophane treatments which added shine. I don’t know if the stuff is still out there. 

I found Curly Girls and bought it for a song. Looking forward to reading it. 

I have organic coconut oil!  I’m going to give it a shot tomorrow. Maybe it’s all about the leave-in conditioner. Gotta check out the Phytonectar.  If you like it, I’m sure I will too. 

Why do you think your silver’s going to get yellow?

The oil spray sounds like a good idea.

Thanks for all the information,
Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 11/12 at 07:07 PM

Hey Barbara,

Some posts commented about their whites/silvers turning yellow maybe due to product.  Diana mentioned sunlight turns hair yellow due to lack of pigment.  The Matrix spray oil I mentioned has SPF in it which should protect the hair from turning yellow from sunlight.  So far I have not had any bad experiences with yellowing. That may be one reason I am hesitant from using products I haven’t used before for fear of getting any yellowing.  So far so good.

Hope you like the coconut oil.  That and the Phytonectar work wonders for hair like ours.

Have a great weekend.  I am off on a cruise for a week so you won’t hear from me for a while.  All my best!!  Carol

Posted by Carol A. on 11/12 at 09:00 PM

Hi Carol,
Have a great time on your cruise!  It sounds wonderful. Are you going to some place warm? 

I’m hoping that I’ll have success with the oil and Phytonectar. I ordered some Ouidad products on line a few days ago and bought from L’Oreal’s professional line, Age Densiforce. 

Take care,
Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 11/13 at 12:40 PM

Ciao Barbara,

We leave from Fort Lauderdale and to to Jamaica, Grand Caymens and back to Lauderdale. 5 days.  I have been waiting for this cruise for a year. Cannot wait.

I have also tried Ouidad, I like that too.  Sooooo many products to try.  I also have many things in my cabinet that I STILL have there.  Oh, if I could get only a portion of the money back.  But that is what we do, keep searching for something better for our curls.

Have a great weekend!!!

Posted by Carol A. on 11/13 at 06:37 PM

Hi Barbara...this is lovinlife....I live in MI and I have 2 great stores that I buy wigs from.  One is in Grand Rapids; Breton Designer Wigs and the other is in Lansing; Elegante Studio. If you google them, you should see their websites.  I always colored in deep aburn..so I have several wigs in that color with highlights, short, curls, long, and a silver one too.  My virgin hair is silver with white...waiting for it to grow a bit longer so I can style it...it’s thick and coarse and wavy. 

Now if I can get the makeup right...smile!

Posted by lovinlife on 12/07 at 10:54 AM

Lovinlife,
My apologies for not responding to your post.  I have no idea why. I’m going to google both sites.  All I want to do is try out bangs.  I think that the color will be a challenge, though. 
I, too, have thick, coarse and wavy hair unless I blow it dry. 
What shampoo and conditioner do you use, if I may ask? I can’t find stuff that works consistently. Maybe it’s me.

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 01/20 at 05:13 PM

Barbara, you look absolutely beautiful!  The natural light is always the most flattering, your silver is so lovely! You truly are an inspiration to those, like me, who so want to have long silvery hair!

Posted by lulubell on 01/20 at 06:56 PM

Wow, Barbara, you look great. Maybe, someday if I can stay away from the scissors mine will look like yours.

Posted by Chrysalis on 01/21 at 04:42 AM

Barbara - Love the update!! You look fantastic.

Posted by grayme on 01/21 at 05:08 AM

Hi Lulubell, Chrysalis and Grayme!

Tons of thanks for your kind compliments. I really appreciate them. 

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 01/21 at 02:50 PM

PLEASE donate to the Haitian rescue.
Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 01/22 at 09:54 PM

Yes, I second that, it’s really easy to donate on line through the Red Cross.

Posted by Chrissy on 01/23 at 04:44 AM

WOW!!  Barbara I love your updated picture.  You look so beautiful.  I love the color gray you have.  What great length you have.  Your hair never really broke off during your transition did it?  Does the texture of your hair feel different now than when you were coloring?  My hair still keeps breaking off although not as much now as before.  But I think my hair is definitely more fragile now than before.  I need to remember that when I comb it , put gel in it or touch it in any way. 

Take care Barbara, hope you are doing well.

Yes, donating to Haiti through the Red Cross is probably one of the best ways.  I have noticed a few solicitations from “unknowns” in my e-mail box.  Definitely NOT donating through them.  Just burns me up that there are such creeps out there taking advantage of a horrible situation for their gain.

Posted by Carol A. on 01/24 at 06:56 PM

I just noticed your update Barbara!  Beautiful!  Isn’t the evolution to silver an amazing process!  One of the many things I love about GGLG is that it shows our journey in pictures....

Posted by Goldie on 01/27 at 07:53 AM

Hi Reese - oh, I mean Goldie,
I don’t know how I missed your message, but I must be losing my mind. 

Thanks for the compliment! You better believe it about the silver process.  But, it’s way more tedious than watching grass grow or water boil. 

I’m almost all transitioned!  The front’s all as white as it’s going to get and the back is just one more trim away.

Have a great weekend!

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 02/05 at 03:09 PM

Take heart Barbara.  We all go through those old movies & photos with longing for the wisdom we carry now and the bodies we carried in our youth!

I think you hit the nail on the head when you start looking at the way you feel physically now.  I’ve struggled with weight issues my whole life. (My first diet was when I was 10.) It’s complicated isn’t it?? I know, for me, I need set boundaries (what I will & will NOT eat) in my eating.  If allowed to my own devices, I’ll want to overeat.  And, I need someone to be accountable to, otherwise, I’ll justify to myself!  I don’t want anyone being the “food police”.  Just someone I can get some honest feed-back from. 

Even with the wisdom of the ages, weight issues are deeply personal.  There are generalities for everyone, but in the end, you are left with yourself & your body. 

So, yes, I know these feelings personally.  I’m rootin’ for ya’, I know you’ll find your way!

Posted by Goldie on 02/21 at 08:26 AM

Dear Goldie,
I agree with you - if only we knew then what we know now.  Oh my, how differently I might have lived the early years.  But, with time comes experience and as you said, wisdom. 

You have taken care of yourself in such a beautiful and elegant manner.

Yes, weight issues are so complicated. The only way I can stay at a healthy weight is by doing exactly what you said you did - set boundaries - and then follow through. 

I have been left to my own devices and the results are so overwhelming. But as with all challenges, it starts with one step. 

Thanks again for your wonderful support and wise words.

Love,
Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 02/21 at 10:26 PM

Just checking in while I have a few minutes before dinner.
I’m in Italy and having a great time. 

There are very few women here who have taken the plunge and have gone natural.  Of course, the ones who have catch my eye.  Men, on the other hand, are graying nicely.  We’ve been coming here on a regular basis for 11 years and so we know many locals.

The relative serenity of the area has changed within the past few days because of the holiday. 

I’ve got to get a shot of me in all my gray glory here to submit for graduation!

Once I have more time, I’ll be back here to chat and look at your updated pictures. 

Looking forward ...

Posted by Barbara on 04/03 at 09:42 AM

I’m back from holiday and just spent some time looking through all the pictures from newbies to alums. 

FABULOUS!

Without a doubt, everyone looks gorgeous.  I love seeing the shortest roots emerging, to chops and pixies, to those whose hair is getting longer.

Got 1 comment on my hair - it’s ‘unique’.  Maybe they thought that I was a wicked witch.  Maybe it doesn’t look all that good. Maybe they thought I was my husband’s mother. 

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 04/17 at 02:14 PM

As I look at my hair pulled back in a nice elasticized fabric headband, it becomes apparent to me that my hair looks like the start of the transitioning process IN REVERSE.

Dark roots, and salt and pepper hair.

Crazy! 

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 06/22 at 09:22 AM

OK GALS, here’s some really interesting and groundbreaking news. Check this out.

After hearing nonsense from my mother over the years about letting my hair go natural, here’s the kicker. 

Mommy has decided to let her hair grow in natural. 
She’s 85 and has been coloring her hair since she was 19.  She told me that she has one more cut to be fully transitioned. She wears her hair very short. 

I’ll be snapping pictures of her new hair when I see her in 1 1/2 months or so. I’ll help her to join GGLG as she is even more technology impaired than I am. 

Then, we’ll make history!
Mine must be the longest elapsed time to be transitioned and Mommy will be the eldest member.

Mother/daughter duo, first in GGLG history! 
Trailblazers I tell ‘ya! 

Looking forward!

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 06/29 at 06:21 PM

whooo hoo barbara!!  i recently visited with an elderly lady who did quit the dye about 6 or 7 years ago...she looked fantastic ...and she was a “boot polish” dark last time i saw her!
can hardly wait to see you both together!!!

Posted by louann on 06/30 at 06:21 AM

Louann,
It’ll be a riot. 
Our ages are palindromes - I’m 58 and she’s 85. 
We’ll have our very own ‘in house’ mini meets. 

Now, all I have to do is convince my kid sister that she’d look great with her natural color.  It’s quite beautiful -
very smooth,silvery and shiny.  So is her dyed hair. She’s got a 10 month old, she’s 49 and doesn’t want to be mistaken for the baby’s grandma. 

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 06/30 at 04:37 PM

tell your sister my mother gave birth to me at 45 with a head full of gray...my sister had recently had my nephew 3 months before...(1955) when she pushed around the “double stroller” everyone congratulated her on her twin grandkids...she happily said “this one is my grandson..this one is MY daughter”!!!
but as we all know well here when “you’re ready”...there will be no stopping her!

in the meantime enjoy mom and send in some pics!!

Posted by louann on 07/01 at 06:09 AM

I was born 11 days before my mother’s 47th birthday.  My mother had been dying her hair but gave it up sometime before I was 3.  I always remember her with gray hair.  But as Louann said, you have to be ready.

Posted by Chrysalis on 07/01 at 06:12 AM

Louann & Chrysalis,
You know I’m going to convey both stories to my sister. Yes, she is simply not ready and I don’t know that she ever will be.

Interestingly, there’s a 9 year difference in our ages with no kids in between.  Mommy was 36 when my kid sister was born.  Very rare in those days and there were some people
who thought she was the grandma.

Gotta get another picture of my nephew in the Happy Dayz section.  He’s going to be a year old next month and that seems to be an appropriate time.  He is one fantastic baby. I am so in love with him and cherish every moment I spend with him.

Oh, I got a compliment! A lovely woman who I’ve known for about 10 years told me that my hair glitters and glistens.  She sure made my day.

Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 07/02 at 10:10 PM

barbara..would love to see the nephew...love the glitter/glistens compliment!

Posted by louann on 07/03 at 06:03 AM

Well, my two year anniversary being here at GGLG just came and went yesterday. 

It’s been a wonderful experience. You gals are just the best in every way possible.

No update pictures because I am where I am. 

xoxoxox
Barbara

Posted by Barbara on 07/30 at 11:56 PM