“Gray hair can be quite elegant. It depends on the style, too—does it flatter the face. I know some quite beautiful women who have gray hair.” - John, 58, physician, Lexington, Kentucky
“My wife’s starting to gray a little bit, and I couldn’t care less. I didn’t marry her because of her hair color.” - Erich, 42, design director, Dumont, New Jersey
“Gray hair can be stunning with certain skin tones. Makes a huge difference in whether it makes you look older. I know some thirty-somethings with gray hair, and it looks great.” - Kermit, 53, national sales account manager, Cleveland, Ohio
“I like it. It is natural, and I think it’s great.” - Mitch, 47, waiter, Santa Monica, California
“My wife told me she was thinking of dyeing her hair since it was becoming gray. I thought about a friend of ours who is a lot younger than we are and all gray, and how very attractive she is. So I told her to let it grow in and see how it looks. Gray hair can be quite attractive. It depends on the individual.” - Len, 50, home furnishings retailer, Fairfield, Connecticut
“I’ve always liked gray hair, even when I was younger. If a woman is active and fit, there’s nothing sexier than well-groomed gray hair.” - Mike, 54, writer, Big Bear Lake, California
“Gray hair can be elegant. Inviting. What I am attracted to is a woman who smiles. One who is a happy person; I rarely notice hair color. Gray or not is not a huge factor in attractiveness. But I don’t like ‘blue.” - Greg, 51, developer, Erie, Pennsylvania
“I think my wife looks more beautiful than ever. I love her gray hair. That’s part of our life together. I would hate for her to dye it.” - André, 46, publisher, Hastings-on-Hudson, New York
“The sexiest thing about a woman with classic beauty is the wisdom of her gray.” - Rus, 35, teacher, Colton, California
“I see personality. Hair color is secondary.” - John, 47, attorney, Orange, California
“Like the lustre on fine pearls, silver hair is a woman’s patina.” - Christopher, 56, attorney, Chicago, Illinois
“I think it’s hot. One, because it shows a woman has the confidence to wear her hair any color she wants. And two, because chances are good she’s an ex-hippie chick.” - John, 52, art director, New York, New York
I found another one 
I think it would be fun to ask a few of our male friends, family or whoever what they think of our hair and decision to do this.
From the comments above seems these men are liking it. It’s always been said that women do a lot of what they do for other women. Hmm, from these comments seems true, don’t you think 
Posted by on 10/08 at 08:43 AM
Great idea, Sallee! If you like, submit some of your guy-friends’ comments. Just add their first name, occupation, age, and place of residence. I think where they live is also a good clue to the cultural “climate” of a certain part of the country. Take a survey. You may be surprised at some of the answers.
Posted by on 10/08 at 11:40 AM
Okay Diana. Yes, I probably will be surprised. How fun,hmm gotta start making a list of who to ask.
Posted by on 10/08 at 01:50 PM
Heeee—this is a good ploy to get back in touch with guys you WANT to get back in touch with. “Hello, I’m doing a little research. . .” Never know—might also get some material for our Silver & the City chat! 
Posted by on 10/08 at 02:15 PM
I guess you never know do you? Maybe there’ll be some candidates at the restaurant where we’re meeting on the 18th. We could dazzle them with our array of gray. 
Posted by on 10/08 at 02:31 PM
I work with a guy who told me, when I said I was going to let my hair go gray, that it would be very sexy indeed. He is turned on by gray hair on a woman!!! I never heard such a thing, but here I am, all grown out and he has made several such comments, so I suppose he was being honest. Ladies who are transitioning, it’s not all bad!!! I’ve had more comments, mostly from men, all positive, since I went gray. Who knew?
Posted by on 10/13 at 04:18 PM
yea sallee wear our sunglasses...it looks like lots of sun “shine”
louann
Posted by on 10/14 at 03:17 PM
Hi Louann, I’ve surpassed my limit for pm’s for a 24 hour period, who knew? So we’ll talk Saturday and I will indeed wear my shades. And we just may run across some guys to ask what they think of our hair. That would be cool. 
Posted by on 10/14 at 04:34 PM
Hi all: I would just like to share my husband’s comment with you when I told him that I had found an alternative to PPD
( It’s a type of henna that covers gray). Yes, I had actually considered going back to the same old boring look. He said, “please don’t color your hair anymore. It looks beautiful the way it is, and most of all it’s really YOU! You’re special and different in a good way, not like all the others.” His name is David,age 61, and he’s an electrician...and my “sweetheart” for 41 years. IN general, every time I talk about coloring my hair, people say, “please don’t...you look better with the gray...odd how I never got any complements when I colored, but now with the gray...Wow!! I get them all the time!
Posted by on 12/04 at 11:42 AM
Well, I guess you plan on keeping him, dont you? 
Very lucky to have your man on the same page and encouraging you to be yourself. Where did you find him? 
Posted by on 12/04 at 11:45 AM
Dear Sallee:
I found David in 1966 at church of all places. We were both teenagers at the time. Yep, I know he’s a jewell, and he makes up for all the crapy things that have happened in my life. Thanks for saying what you said...often, I take him for granted...the truth is he’s a one of a kind sweetheart.
Blessings to you
Posted by on 12/04 at 12:46 PM
Well good for your hubby, Maria.m. I love it that he used the word BEAUTIFUL. He’s a very perceptive man. And isn’t it amazing about the compliments?? I think that’s because silver is so unusual and so special, everything else just looks ordinary. Especially if it’s a dyed color.
One thing I want to correct. PPD is sometimes IN henna, but it is not henna. It is also in too many hair dyes. Read “A Burning Question” under the Transitioning tab. Since you are looking to avoid it, you’ve probably found out the kind of trouble it can cause, but you might want to find out a few more things about it, including the kind of henna that has PPD in it. Natural henna, from the plant, doesn’t.
Posted by on 12/04 at 01:17 PM
Hi Diana: First of all, many thanks for your book and web-site. You’ve helped me, like so many other women, to dare to
take the plunge and go natural. Actually, what I meant to say was that I had found an alternative to PPD coloring to which I am highly allergic. The alternative that I found was a type of pure Henna that is made without PPD. That’s why I was tempted to try it. I guess I just got my words mixed up. Once again, many thanks for inspiring me and so many others to go gray.
Posted by on 12/05 at 12:39 PM
My older brother’s hair (and beard) is salt and pepper. His Macedonian wife had always colored her hair and about the same time I was letting my color grow out, she was doing the same thing and he would tell how wonderful her hair looked but he would rave about my hair. He and his wife went overseas (to her homeland) and her relatives were appalled with her gray hair ... so she colored it. After she colored it, he remarked to me that it, “it was just never that pretty”. Well, it made me wonder if he really thought my hair was so wonderful… but I felt like I wouldn’t know if he was just trying to placate me or what. So, I didn’t follow up. Well, his wife (my sister in law) has put the bottle away and it looks fabulous… Her skin tone looks better with the gray than it did with the harsh dyes that she used. We had a family get together not long ago and he raved and raved about my hair, and I said that I loved his wife’s hair… but he didn’t comment. I think she looks wonderful but you can tell that it hurts that her husband raves about mine but doesn’t seem to like hers.... Why do you think that is? I’m not the greatest judge in the world, but honestly I think she looks a hundred times better, but he doesn’t seem to like it. Mine is a denser gray ... does that make sense?
Posted by on 12/13 at 01:29 PM
Hmmmmm—I think your brother needs a little lesson in diplomacy! 
What do you mean yours is a denser gray? It looks light and bright. Do you mean there’s just more of it? Maybe he’ll like his wife’s when it achieves the same “denseness.” Tell her to come to this site—she’ll get PLENTY of support, if she doesn’t get it from hubby!
Posted by on 12/13 at 02:20 PM
He really does need a lesson. It is very confusing to me. You are right .. that’s it… I have more gray than she does. I have encouraged her to visit this site...but it’s very awkward that he is so encouraging to me and not to her. In every other way, he is so sweet to his wife. Life I say, it is very confusing. I’ll have to get a picture of her to send to the site and then when she knows that it is posted… she’ll get all these wonderful “reviews” and maybe her husband will clean up his act.
Posted by on 12/13 at 03:29 PM
Oooh, no, you can’t do that, Lynn. I can only accept pictures if people send them in of their own volition. She would have to send them in herself. But she really should, just to get some positive feedback. In the meantime, maybe you could have a little private heart-to-heart with your brother. Tell him, if he’s not going to compliment her, at least he should stop raving on and on about YOUR hair.
Posted by on 12/13 at 05:40 PM
men are the silliest thing god invented!!! 
but oh how we love them…
i agree with ms d. ... your brother just needs a small lesson in diplomacy.... some one ask him why he hasn’t “taken care” of his s/p beard?! plus i can tell you honestly...facial hair ages men...my husband shaved off his mustache many many years ago and boy did it change his looks…
anyway...my homemade chicken soup awaits…
louann
Posted by on 12/13 at 07:10 PM
I’m wishing, a bit, that there were more comments from younger men… What I really wish for is a sea change that will free women in their THIRTIES to be natural… to never reach for that bottle in the first place.
I home-colored my hair from about 27 - 35 years old, and then realized, what the hell, was I gonna do this for ANOTHER 20 years before I figured out it was a big game, perpetuated NOT by men OR women, but by business concerns?
My husband (met him at 31, married him at 34) said to me (He was maybe 33...) “ I LOVE your grays… they’re earthy and beautiful. It’s like you have so much going on in there, it’s like, ‘Ps-ew, Ps’ew’ (phaser gun sound).”
Posted by on 02/16 at 07:39 PM
Well, there ya go, missoulagrace—you just inserted a comment from a younger man! 
A very perceptive one, might I add. Welcome to GGLG!
Posted by on 02/16 at 08:16 PM
First THANK YOU for this wonderful website.
I am an Army National Guard Soldier. I was in the Armory Drill Hall when a guy from across the room walked to where I was speaking to a group of soldiers. He waited politely and then said “Love your hair. Gray hair is so striking.” He was around 30 years old.
Met an old boyfriend (engineer) I haven’t seen in 25 years one day at the airport. Of course I had to ask “so what do you think of all the gray?” He said “Don’t change it.”
My husband (chiropractor) at first fought me tooth and nail about growing out the gray. NOW says “Do not dye your hair”
Posted by on 05/14 at 05:59 AM
Wanted to add my husband is a younger man!
Posted by on 05/14 at 06:01 AM
Welcome, SGT Lori! So glad you’re getting a great response! It may take some men awhile to admit they like gray hair, but others really go for it right off the bat. We salute you—in more ways than one!
Posted by on 05/14 at 05:12 PM