Definitely after! Stunning at any length!
Posted by on 03/18 at 03:44 AM
Elizabeth’s Story
From Preemie to PPD to pow!
Elizabeth two weeks before the PPD reaction, Fall 2004. Pretty, yes. Striking? Not yet.
Three months after the big chop, January 2005. We can only imagine how short she really had to go!
By Summer, 2005, Elizabeth had a cute, choppy short cut.
A funny thing happened to silver-haired Elizabeth Moeller when she began to have the “Turning 40 Blues.” She went online to research coloring her hair, and found us! Just in the nick of time. She said our pages were just what she needed for a “pick me up.” More importantly, she shouldn’t have been looking for color at all – she had been through a significant PPD reaction at the age of 36. I’ll let her tell you about it in her own words.
I started to show the glimmer of silver when I was still in high school. I had been coloring my hair an auburn shade since that time, and when I was 36, I had a terrible reaction to the colorant that the salon used. I just soaked my head under running cold water for a week ‘til the burning sensation and the blistering subsided.
With my dyed auburn color, there was NO WAY to grow out the gray without looking like Halloween every day! So, as my husband says, “I cut it down to the wood.” Very drastic... and yet... extremely freeing. I was surprised as to how empowering it was too. I definitely received a lot of feedback, some not so nice. It was hard at times to stay on track growing it out to its natural color, and yet my options were already depleted. I did NOT want to go through the “burn” again! It was a miserable and frightening experience.
A few of my close friends hated that I would not color it – they said it made them feel old when they saw my hair. That was hard to hear. I had always been the one that people would guess to be in my 20’s even when I was well into my 30’s. No one would believe it when I’d say that I had 6 children (7, when I let my hair gray.) My fear after our 7th was born in 2006 was that people would ask if he was my grandchild! It’s amazing how “color blind” people can be! Silver does not mean OLD. To my relief, no one has ever asked me if my children are my grandkids.
Ed. Note: Little danger of that, Elizabeth!
Nearly a year after her chop, Elizabeth’s hair was growing, and that’s not all. She’s two months pregnant!
When Elizabeth sent in the family’s 2007 Christmas card, I wanted to see more of that hair. So she asked her best friend from high school to come over and snap some pictures. I think you’ll all agree – she went from a pretty redhead to pow!
Photo credit: Lisa Santee
Today, Elizabeth says their family is “completed” – not going to play Eight is Enough! Her children have mixed emotions about Mama being gray, but they all vote unanimously for the length. Every once in awhile, one or the other will ask her why she doesn’t color it. She sees it as an opportunity to teach her children that “a person’s true value is not measured by what they wear or how they look, it’s about the honor, integrity and kindness that they display as they live their life.”
Nicely said.
She’s happy with her color (except for an occasional pre-40 panic), and the fact that it’s healthy, in good condition, and strong. Her husband loves the natural color, too, and is always ready to say, “I told you so.”
ELizabeth celebrates Spring with a New Curly Look!
Elizabeth decided she missed the "big hair" look of the 80's, and did a modernized soft-curl version of it. "It was such a glam, feminine look," she says -- and proves it! Not that she's going to give up her straight-hair look, but switching styles always gives a girl a boost. Especially in the Spring!
Forty & Fab!
Not too many months ago, Elizabeth was searching the web for ways to color her hair. Why? Because she was facing 40, and wondering if her gorgeous gray hair was adding even more years. And that's when she found us! Happily, she stayed gray, turned 40 this month, and looks better than ever! Moral of the story? Milestone birthdays can make you think crazy thoughts. Just ignore them!
Before or after, everybody? Post your comments!
(Please be brief. If you want to chat longer, come visit us at Café Gray!)
Oh my! Absolutely GORGEOUS hair!!!
Thank you Elizabeth for telling your story and thank you Diana for posting it for us to enjoy!!!
I have determined to keep with this though I only have about 1 1/2 inches of natural color right now...but I must say at times I still question if I’m going to look old and tired. Elizabeth does NOT look OLD OR TIRED!!! She absolutely glows!!!
I realize I’m older and I don’t think my color is as white, but I’m going for the gray.
Thanks for the inspiration!
Posted by on 03/18 at 06:40 AM
Many thanks to Diana for this wonderful opportunity to tell my story! Thank you Morningstar and Greeneyes for your feedback 
I am soooo glad that I stumbled on to this web site! It has brought me a huge amount of encouragement. I love reading everyones stories and chats on their personal “silver fox” journeys 
Posted by on 03/18 at 07:02 AM
Elizabeth, POW!! is right!! You should be a model!! You’re definitely a role model for me, that’s for sure. You make it very cool for young women like me who are gray to keep their gray. You’ve got me thinking about growing my hair out. Way to go girl!!!
Kendall
Posted by on 03/18 at 08:29 AM
Also Elizabeth, can I ask how old you are now? The article mentions the process started at 36. Thanks again for your story.
Kendall
Posted by on 03/18 at 09:14 AM
I am 39 and 3/4ths. I’m hanging on by a thread! Hey I hear the 40’s are a blast! I’ll let ya know;-)
Elizabeth
Posted by on 03/18 at 09:44 AM
Elizabeth, you most certainly are a great gray!!! Thank you for sharing your journey and pictures. You look even lovelier with your natural hair color.
Posted by on 03/19 at 08:00 AM
Thank you Pam! It’s an amazing adventure this “hair journey” that we all are on! 
Every once in awhile I have been tempted in the past to go back to that Auburn color...I am here to say that I think I have been “cured” from such thoughts and temptations! Finding this Web Site was truly a blessing!
Elizabeth
Posted by on 03/19 at 03:53 PM
Empowerment is so powerful, isn’t it? It makes you so strong that metaphorically, you could “put your fist through a wall”. I am inspired by all of your comments!
Kendall
Posted by on 03/19 at 06:45 PM
Beautiful hair!! An inspiration for all of us!
Posted by on 03/20 at 04:28 AM
What a wonderful family you have. I loved the picture of you with really short, cropped hair.. You look about 15 years old.. How long did it take to grow your hair to it’s current length? Years, I’m sure. Well, keep it up, girl… it’s beautiful, and so are you.
Posted by on 03/20 at 12:12 PM
Hey thank you!
I think I might owe my children some credit for a few of my grey hairs I had cut it all off the fall of 2004 and made a promise to myself that I would not cut it, other than a trim, until I was 40. I turn 40 this July and this is the longest my hair has ever been my whole life...and the whitest...LOL Most of the time you see shorter grey hair styles!! Not fair...so any of you closet hippies out there...I say “let it grow”
Posted by on 03/20 at 01:32 PM
Love the long hair, it is absolutely gorgeous. I agree that we don’t see enough long haired grays. When I turned 30, I got static from co-workers about cutting my hair because even though I was coloring it, they thought it was wrong for anyone over 30 to have long hair.
Now that I am transitioning to gray and am doing a dramatic two tone grow out with my still long hair, I have people assuming I am growing it out just an inch or two more before cutting it all off because of course I wouldn’t dare to keep it long and gray. Wrong they are....who says gray hair has to be short?
Posted by on 03/21 at 07:14 AM
Okay Keri, I agree with you. You are getting me going on a pet peeve of mine. While growing up, long before age 30, my mom always was saying, “Noone over 30 should have long hair.” Since I always loved medium to long hair, I dreaded turning 30. When I turned 29 I went into mourning...wondering what I would do about my long hair. Well, I kept it! That is what I did about it! :o) Now I am 44 and I have been the only woman in my family to keep longer hair. A couple of years ago my sister’s husband even asked me, “When are you going to cut your hair like the rest of the women in your family?” I said, “Probably never.”
And now as you said, I am hearing opinions that gray hair must be kept short. I have an inch and a half of my natural gray so far, and though I have gotten many inches cut off my hair for trasition (barely touches my shoulders with shorter layers all over, yet still not really short) I fully intend to grow my hair when the color is gone. My stylist says it will probably be 4 1/2 months. I’m thinking more like 6 months, sadly.
Elizabeth and many others are showing everyone that gray hair can be beautiful at any length. And just think Keri, in time WE will be showing them as well!
Well, need to go wash my hair and give it the daily pep talk, “Grow hair, GROW!”
Sometimes the waiting is so painful!
Posted by on 03/21 at 07:34 AM
I think it all depends on who you are and how comfortable you are with yourself. Elizabeth looks absolutely stunning with that long gorgeous gray hair, therefore, she’s comfortable in it. I have short curly gray hair and I’m comfortable in it. Change is good, but change should come when we’re ready for it, not when a relative or co-worker says we should do it. That relative or co-worker isn’t the one combing, shampooing, or styling our hair, we are. I said that to say this: be who you are and be proud!!!
Posted by on 03/21 at 08:17 AM
Definitely after! Glorious gray is the best way to describe your hair Elizabeth. I’m 55 and after reading your story, 56 actually sounds exciting...never thought I’d be thinking that way!I’m looking forward to a new more natural look and similarly I’m ready to let go of my fake auburn hair. Thanks for sharing. You are lovely and quite the inspiration!
Posted by on 03/21 at 10:59 AM
Hi! I believe with ALL of my heart that if we are able to embrace who we are. Not get caught up in the endless exausting battle of trying to hide and conform to the “social standard” of; who should have grey hair...what age is appropriate for grey hair...what length it should or should not be…
If it brings the feeling of strength,vitality, and freedom...Ladies it’s a “Martha Moment”! “IT,S A GOOD THING” 
It’s not our deal if people out there are “color blind” when it comes to this “crown of glory” we call our hair!!! This wonderful,sparkling,shimmering unique hair! It’s one of our beautiful assets that sets us apart!
Hey!! If 56 is looking exciting!!! YAHOOOOOO I’m on my way!
P.S I massage my head once a week with organic sweet almond oil...I like to believe that its helped stimulate the scalp and hair folicle so it will grow faster an keep my hair from getting too brittle (I have no scientific research or documentation LOL;-)
Posted by on 03/21 at 11:44 AM
Elizabeth
You are stunning,your beautiful silver/white hair enhances your eyes and your face just glows. I love the transformation, and I love the length.
You should be a model!
Carol Q.
Posted by on 03/22 at 10:56 AM
Thanks!
Carol you also have a wonderful transformation! That smile lights up a room! I love the wave that you have to your hair! It looks so soft. Isn’t this a fun adventure when you have so many like minded women to share it with! By the way, I’d love to model...got any leads for a silver haired mother of 7?
Elizabeth
Posted by on 03/22 at 03:20 PM
Elizabeth
I haven’t got a clue about how to become a model, wish I did, because I sure would reccomend you,,perfect smile, hair teeth, everything..Plus a beautiful family, your Husband is a very lucky man!
Anyway,,I would think that if any agency is looking for gray haired women for models and advertising it sure would be this site. Wish you the best
Carol
Posted by on 03/22 at 06:58 PM
Gee Carol...Thanks for being so encouraging! I still find myself held captive by all the women’s pictures on this web page. Someday we’ll all have to get together for a “silverfox” reunion. Can you imagine...we’d light up New York
E.
Posted by on 03/23 at 06:12 PM
Hey Diana
Elizabeth had a great suggestion,,A silverfox reunion to “light up” New York!!! Maybe someday??? Would be great fun.
Carol
Posted by on 03/24 at 06:06 AM
If there was a gathering at some time, I would certainly count myself “in”. What a fantastic idea!!!
Posted by on 03/24 at 07:40 AM
Do you think New York could handle all of us at once…
Elizabeth
Posted by on 03/24 at 07:54 AM
I’m not sure… that’d be quite a gathering!!! I just wanted to tell you, I agree with the others, you should model. You are amazingly pretty!
Posted by on 03/24 at 09:17 AM
It sure would be fun though! Thank you for your kind words...the feed back that I have received has really taken me by surprise. Sometimes when your life is focused in one direction(raising 7)it’s hard to envision doing something totally outside of the “box”. I have to admit...I’d love to try. Hope everyone had a wonderful Easter weekend!
Posted by on 03/24 at 11:05 AM
WOW! Elizabethyou look WONDERFUL! I’m hoping to be about your color silver...I’m 3 months into growing my gray out.
Lori
Posted by on 03/27 at 07:44 PM
After. Definitely. Elizabeth...you look much younger and more vibrant with your natural hair and the length is fab. The silver tones really make your eyes pop. Beautiful.
Posted by on 03/27 at 08:06 PM
Elizabeth you look great! For all of you, this is my first post. I’m 54, have been gray since early 20’s but coloring. I have tried in the past to go gray but couldn’t follow through. This time, I’m 7 wks. into it with about 3/4 inch roots, had lowlights 2 wks. sgo instead of an all over color as I had been having. My question is: how do you mentally deal with the roots, stripes, etc. I had someone ask me about my stripe at church this morning. Have you found a way to soften the color to blend better with roots? Just any info you can give would help me. I don’t think I am 100% sure right now. Need opinions and support, please.
Thanks,
Karen
Posted by on 03/30 at 03:41 PM
Hi Karen—I usually don’t jump in here, but since you’re new, I’d like to say welcome, and also point you in a good direction. Have you cruised through the Café Gray section? Particularly, look under Playing the Waiting Game, and What Are You Afraid Of? You’ll find an on-going discussion there, and lots of GOOD advice from Members who are going through exactly what you’re going through—“skunk stripe” and all. Everyone has lots of good ideas on how they’re handling it. Other sections in the Café have good coloring tips as well. Take a look! D.
Posted by on 03/30 at 03:52 PM
Thanks, I did go there after here and have posted. Was actually looking at ordering your book when the email came in. This is so hard, thanks for providing this support.
Posted by on 03/30 at 04:34 PM
Good Mornin’ Everyone!
I really want to encourage both Lori and Karen. I remember the excitement that I felt when I finally decided to let the gray “grow free”...then came the comments and looks from others. It’s hard to hide the transition and at times I would actually feel really uncomfortable in social settings, then I’d start to question if I was doing the right thing(even though the decision was made for me due to my PPD). I think the gray challenges a social stigma… gray = tired/old. Well...I am not old( age is overrated)...and I am a natural gray! The sweetest reward that I received from my “hair” transformation was the inner strength that grew from this whole experience! I have NO regrets...I feel free!! I’m no longer on “root watch”! I finally “own” who I am and how I look. It feels right...it feels good! So...when you beautiful ladies have those “off” days...keep your head up! The reward is in the journey...it’s worth the trip
Posted by on 03/31 at 07:17 AM
Thank you for that. However, you’re a natural beauty to start with so you had a step up on me. My habitual saying is “It is what it is” so I will now apply that motto to myself and my roots. I will do this!!!
I can’t believe how much all this support helps!
Posted by on 03/31 at 12:14 PM
Hey!!! “It takes a village to raise a silver beauty” You have found a village of support here…
Posted by on 03/31 at 12:54 PM
So far I haven’t had any negative comments. A few people have noticed the roots, but when I explain what I’m doing they usually say good for you! When the weather starts to warm up, I’ll be wearing a french braid, I can french braid my own hair, or baseball cap and ponytail. Which is not out of the norm for me in the summer. I doubt I’ll go super short as I don’t look good with short hair. But then again I will never say never! LOL!
Lori
Posted by on 03/31 at 01:19 PM
Thank God for the good ole’ baseball cap! I love that you can french braid your hair too!!! What color had you been coloring it prior to growing it out? You sound like you have a beautiful head of hair! Mine was so fried from the “final” dye job that I had received...there was no way to deal with it other than to shave it off! Not to mention the blisters… Nooo fun!
Posted by on 03/31 at 01:40 PM
My hair was medium to dark brown. Diana addedmy pictures to the Newbies page.And just below shoulder length. I lives in baseball caps in the summer when I’m in the yard or taking my daily walks.
If any of y’all have a myspace.com account you can go to my page and see my pictures. To see my albums you have to be signed in. But you can see a few pictures by just visiting my page. http://www.myspace.com/plinkette is my web address. I don’t think these boards are not link abled but that is good for safety in my opinion.
Lori
Posted by on 03/31 at 02:29 PM
Well there you are Lori!!!Let the adventure begin
I can’t wait to see your transformation! It’s great that you have support from your family! I’m in your corner too!
I’m thinkin’ we need to find a central location for a reunion for all of the “silver foxes” out there! Diana was the “pebble” in the water...it’s amazing to watch the ripple effect! We all have a lot to celebrate!
Posted by on 03/31 at 02:41 PM
A reunion sounds good. Hey maybe a cruise for us Silver Belles! Diana needs to get on the talk shows, like Ellen, Rachel Ray and Oprah, and really get the ball rolling!
Lori
Posted by on 03/31 at 03:37 PM
Hey Lori—
If you click on your last posting link—you go there. Just so you know. D.
Posted by on 03/31 at 03:48 PM
A cruise—what next???? At this point, the cruise would be me rowing you all down the East River. OK, all, I’m listening, I’m listening. . . could be a lotta fun. Maybe it should be a celebration of the first anniversary of the site. Geesh, we’re only 3 months old.
I agree about the talk shows. Okay everybody—time to do a write-in campaign! Let’s flood ‘em with emails!
Posted by on 03/31 at 03:57 PM
I’m IN!!!! I’ve been known to “row a boat”! I’m actually helping a friend build one from scratch(not kidding)
Yep!!! Let’s flood the Talk Show Hosts with letters! Everyone is always talking about “embracing” who we are!Well...I am a silver haired 39 year old mother of 7 
This could be A LOT of fun!!!
Posted by on 03/31 at 04:06 PM
Let’s start with flooding Rachael Ray she has a an area for show ideas...then proceed weekly to other shows!
Diana, I discovered the link worked too. I was going to post pics of me on my myspace page, but now I’m telling everyone if they want to see my progress to come to this site!I’m still blogging on it on there every few months or so, though.
Lori
Posted by on 03/31 at 04:23 PM
O.K. Rachel Ray it is!
Posted by on 03/31 at 04:32 PM
I just emailed the producers of her show at
Lori
Posted by on 03/31 at 04:34 PM
We probably post this show idea in the cafe area, too.
Lori
Posted by on 03/31 at 04:35 PM
Gosh girl you are quick! I’ll email now too!
Posted by on 03/31 at 04:36 PM
I just sent an email too!
Posted by on 03/31 at 05:05 PM
Why do I get the feeling I’m on a runaway train here??? OK, I’ll post an announcement in the Café. But right now I’m working on a little surprise for you guys tomorrow. Stay tuned. . . D.
Posted by on 03/31 at 05:28 PM
All Aboard!!! 
Posted by on 03/31 at 05:35 PM
I just love surprises!
Lori
Posted by on 03/31 at 05:58 PM
Coloring gray hair is so old school. Gray hair is the new, artsy thing to do. It’s very avant garde...and we’re all blazing the trail.
Posted by on 03/31 at 09:02 PM
Couldn’t agree with you more!
What a privilge to experience the journey with a wonderful group of women!
Thanks again Diana for bringing us together...giving us a voice and an opportunity to support one another.
It’s been a huge blessing to me...and I’m sure to many others!
Many warm thanks, Elizabeth
Posted by on 04/01 at 04:30 AM
Here’s Ellen’s site to make show suggestions:
http://ellen.warnerbros.com/show/respond/?PlugID=10
Lori
Posted by on 04/01 at 07:43 AM
Thanks Lori!!!
Posted by on 04/01 at 08:23 AM
Hey,Oprah has a thing on Jamie Lee Curtis going gray and everything. And asking if she has inspired you. I said yeas and Diana’s book. So lets all get on their and send her to this site
https://www.oprah.com/plugger/templates/BeOnTheShow.jhtml?action=respond&plugId=323900002
Posted by on 04/01 at 11:40 AM
O.K here we go girls;-) Get ready for a fun ride
Posted by on 04/01 at 03:01 PM
Hi Elizabeth - Even with your hair at the shortest stage, you looked absolutely beautiful! How short did you go?
I’m at the point now where I have about 1” of silver root and the rest is brown with silver now being exposed on the sides(my hair is fairly short). I’m getting tired of trying to conceal the silver with ColorMark - it’s just becoming too much of a job every day. I feel like I have a rug on top and when the wind blows, all the gray underneath is really obvious now. It just looks ridiculous! I am very near to “bringing it down to the wood” (to quote your husband)and being done with it.
I look at your picture as well as some of the other ladies and hope that I can find the courage to do “the chop”. I’m just afraid of being much too self-conscious. Did you feel that way?
Posted by on 04/09 at 05:57 AM
Good morning Christine,
I was “forced” into not dying my hair, I had a pretty severe allergic reaction and due to my personality(all or nothing) I shaved the back and left just a little hair around my face and on top. The first “cut” I did myself...I was soooo mad that the PPD happened to me! So..I had a hair tempertantrum! I had been “hiding” my gray since I was in H.S. and I was terrified that I was going to age over night!
Well...there was no other way for me, than to just go for it...so I did. I loved having my “power cut” It was soooo easy!! I would keep it “soft cut” around my face and pull pieces down to frame my face. I used a gel from Aveda and it gave my hair the look of “semi-wet”. It actually looked really cool on the top with the multi tone effect. The biggest worry that I had was that I no longer looked feminine… 
That was my BIGGEST hangup!
So...I spent more time on doing my eyes and my lips when I put on my makeup! I changed some of my clothing style...showed more of my neck and wore more whimsical tops. It definately at times was very trying for me...I just wanted it to grow 
Still to this day I use only my fingers when I “comb” through my hair...I don’t blow dry it and very rarely do I flat iron. I got in that habit when I was only using gel when it was super short, never changed. I think that it’s another reason why may hair is sooo healthy.
A LOT of wonderful things transformed in my heart during the whole process...It was well worth it!
Remember...It’s in the Journey that we discover who we are and what true beauty lies with in
Posted by on 04/09 at 06:36 AM
Hello ladies
Christine’s post echoes my feelings exactly. I have said much the same on the Cafe Gray section already today. Elizabeth’s pictures were the first ones I saw when I found this site a couple of days ago and the impetus I needed to make the decision to go natural. Then again she would even look good with a bag over her head.
Her dramatic hair chop was a necessity.
However this seems to be the big dilemma for people who prefer longer hair to feel like themselves. If you go for the close crop you skip the multicoloured tartan look but then need the patience of a saint to wait maybe for years to get the length back to where you want it to be. It seems to be a question of weighing up the pros and cons- longer hair makes me FEEL right whereas short hair makes me LOOK right.
For me, the jury is still out on this one.
Posted by on 04/09 at 07:07 AM
Hey Elizabeth
Our posts came up simultaneously there. I have just read yours. The feminine issue really resonates with me. You sound so strong and focussed too. I see your journey took about 4 years. My husband is very nervous too about this grey issue but I showed him your pics and he mellowed. Thing is he wants me now to go from shoulder length to pixie look and I’m having difficulty finding if I can. Watch this space!!
Posted by on 04/09 at 07:17 AM
Elizabeth - thanks so much for your response. It has been really helpful and encouraging, especially your last 2 sentences. I have surprised myself in coming this far - I don’t know or see too many women in my area going through the transition.
Posted by on 04/09 at 08:36 AM
Hmmmmm....Do it get to color my paper bag, if I am going to wear one...I must decorate it
O.k. let’s do some “brain storming” ladies… Maria you sound like you have wonderfully long hair! Christine your hair sounds about shoulder length. So...lets make a plan!!!!
Have either of you looked into doing some highlites just around your face? Is there anyway to foil some lighter shades in the front...who cares about the back! If you do foiling, find someone who is good at it and knows how to take fine sections...not big chunks! The goal is to gently weave a more subtle light color...focus around the face and on where you part your hair. Stay away from coloring the unseen areas, then as your hair continues to grow out you can get fewer and fewer foils. If the goal is to keep your length you might need to do some higher maintenance type things to get to where you want to be...which is au natural
Christine, after my hair grew out a year, the fall of 2005 I could get a tiny ponytail in the back of my head!! I mean it was tiny!I used tiny barretts to help hide the little pieces that would come out of the pony. I purchased hair pieces...the kind that are on 2 wires and a comb. You put the comb under the little pony and wrap the 2 haired wires around the pony. It makes it look like you have shoulder lenght hair that is pulled up to a sassy style! I LOVED using those hair pieces!!!They were the coolist!! It helped me greatly with my transition back to longer length hair.
I bet Diana has some great tips too! She’s like a walking resource book...a very pretty one AT THAT
We’ll figure this out!! It’ll be AWESOME!!
Posted by on 04/09 at 09:09 AM
Dear Elizabeth
Thank you so much for responding so quickly. I actually only have shoulder length hair but I am loathe to part with it. I am due a visit to the hairdressers in a few weeks so I’ll discuss highlights with her. If she even dares to suggest fighting the grey I’ll refer her to you!!
Since stumbling on this site on Monday I feel like I have new pals in you and Diana, albeit half way round the world, so don’t worry I won’t be knocking on your door for a chat and a cup of tea.
Must go now and get the dinner on. Enough navel gazing and self absorption for me for today.
Thanks again.
Posted by on 04/09 at 09:42 AM
Just so you both know...your responses came up while I was trying to type! I am by far the SLOWEST typer this side of the Mississippi 
And constantly being interrupted by my kids(who are ALL on spring break)
Maria, since you have shoulder length hair can you go a couple of inches shorter(layering too) and do those hairpieces that I mentioned...the ideal situation is to stay away from coloring/highlighting. If your hair is thick, they can do some soft-cutting and texturing deeper into the hair length which could take out some of the harsh two tone look. How much gray has grown out so far?
Posted by on 04/09 at 09:49 AM
See...you wrote to me again B4 I was finished…
Anyone out there know of a “personal secretary” that will work for food? 
Posted by on 04/09 at 09:52 AM
I ment TYPE for food...hahahahaha
Posted by on 04/09 at 09:53 AM
Elizabeth - My hair is actually about 3” all around, cut out around my ears - I guess you could say pixie length. This is really short for me. There is some white coming down the sides, which doesn’t really bother me. I have about 1” of gray and 2” of brown all around. I’m just afraid of how severe it will look at 1”. But as I had said, I would be done with it. I feel like I am talking about my hair way too much - I have never spent so much time obsessing about it. It’s crazy!
I talked to my hairdresser about lightening sections, but she feels just keep on with the haircuts every 4 weeks and no color.
You are just wonderful to take the time to respond and to make all of your great suggestions. I will let you know when (did I say that???) I “bring it down to the wood” (I just love your husband’s expresssion)!!
Thanks!
Posted by on 04/09 at 10:37 AM
There’s nothin’ like a man with a great sense of humor!!
Let me share something that I feel strongly about… Our hair is our CROWN...it’s one of the HUGE things that defines who we are...it sets us apart from others, it’s one of our unique personal signatures.
So, to be on this “journey” of transformation, I think that it’s normal to have some trepidation and anxiety about the whole thing! Some of it is cultural, some social, and some is just plain fear of the unknown. It’s O.K. to want to talk it through...Thank God for giving Diana the “vision” to do this website! We have a place to talk/vent!
We need one another...Talk on!
So now...about your hair length. I really have a belief that it’s all in the cut when you are growing out your hair. I had mine SUPER short(shaved) in the back and close to shaved on the sides and had a little more to play with on the top in front and just a little longer by the sides of my face. I wanted to create the soft “framing” effect around my cheeck bones and eyes.
For me...it was “all or nothing” even though I was scared outa my mind and MAD! There was something totally freeing in just “going for it”...It grows back beautifully!
It is a huge lesson in patience...something I have struggled with my whole life. Nothing about the process hurt me...it strengthened me, increased my determination and self-discipline. Yea...I have had my moments of weakness, soon to be turning 40 has stirred up some insecurities, I can’t even begin to express how much this website and the women here have changed my perspective!
It’s amazing where and how we go about getting our “iron will”.
Start looking at haircuts...find a good stylist that is gifted in cutting your hair to what fits your face and your hair texture...not the “trend” cut. Cuz if your hair is happy...you’ll be happy...and it’ll show in your face
Posted by on 04/09 at 12:56 PM
Hi Christine - Hope you don’t mind my chiming in. I went through the same thing. I won’t go into all the detail here, but I only had about 1/2” of growth when I cut off all my dyed hair. My hands were trembling. I couldn’t believe how emotional I was about my HAIR! I was in tears. I thought I was going to throw up. It was awful, those first few, pitiful moments after I lobbed a hunk off the top of my head. But I just kept on cutting and pretty soon all the brown was gone. Of course, other than my bangs and the fringe around my face, so was all my hair. I went out with my husband and on that first hairless excursion I was approached by a woman who complimented me on such beautiful silver hair. And she liked my cut. She said it was elegant. ??????? Wow. Talk about a mood swing. I went from feeling like a death camp survivor to a movie star in about a heartbeat. Regardless of what you decide to do, cutting it off or dealing with the roots, it’s going to take a LOT of guts and determination. Take a look at the photos on this website. Each of these women had to go through this. Then look at how beautiful and radiant they are. You will be too.
Posted by on 04/09 at 01:20 PM
I don’t get flustered or upset about bad hair cuts. I guess its because I took cosmetology in high school as a vocational class, but bad hair cuts or color just doesn’t faise me! Just last summer my I ended up with a hair cut that was much shorter than I wanted and uneven to boot. Turns out the stylist had just finished school! Anyway, I came home and evened it out my self, played with it until I found a way to style it that I liked. It barely touched my shoulders at that time and that was in early June of ‘07. As you can see by my photo’s in the newbie section, my hair is down to the bra strap line mid back. And I had it cut 2” back in Nov. My hair grows pretty fast.
If I thought I could get away with it Id do a short spikie cut, but because I’m on the heavier side Im afraid I may look to masculine with it.
Elizabeth looked STUNNING with the short haircutbut she has petite features.
Lori
Posted by on 04/09 at 01:37 PM
Hi everybody—I love the way the conversation is flowing here—everybody helping everybody. That’s just what I imagined when I started this site. But let me chime in here for both Maria and Christine. Maria—a pixie cut can be very feminine, especially if you leave it a bit longer on top. And you may find that it emphasizes your features in a new way, especially around the eyes. It will feel long, because you can tousel the top, or bring it forward and to the side. You can slick back the sides with gel, or bring little pointy pieces around the face. It gives you a lot of variety—every day you can try something new. Since this whole thing is a new adventure, take full advantage of it, and play!
Christine—you may still have those 2” of brown for awhile, but they’ll be gone before you know it. Every cut appointment, a little more and a little more will be gone. But—“cutting it down to the wood,” as Elizabeth and 12Green did, is a whole different story. As you can tell from their comments, it’s very emotional. If you’re not DEEPLY committed to doing that, don’t. Your courage can be expressed in another way—in patience. And, with a short pixie cut, I promise you—it won’t take that long. You’re really almost “home free.” It’s just that you can’t see the forest for the trees—or the silver for the brown! It’s best to always take one step, give it awhile to “sink in,” before doing anything more drastic.
When—and if—it gets to the point where you say “I just can’t stand it anymore, it’s gotta go,” you’ll know. And that’s the only time when you’ll be really happy with the results. Elizabeth had to—her scalp was badly burned. 12Green chose to because she had reached that point, and also because of career considerations. Shira (see Shira’s Story) chose to shave her head because she felt all the years of dyeing had left her hair unhealthy. They all showed tremendous courage, and I think they share an “all or nothing” philosophy. But you’re not any less courageous if you choose to do it another way.
You have to ask yourselves—am I at that point? If not, take a deep breath, cut it a little bit shorter, and wait. You CAN do it! Hugs to you both, D.
Posted by on 04/09 at 09:12 PM
Amen - Diana you are right on point! It is an individual decision and it’s important for the person to be ready. While I wish I had had the courage to chop right away (and wish even more this site had been available during the process) baby steps suited my comfort level. After toughing it out with long hair for the first 10 months...it took me to near the end to go for the Katie Holmes length and I love it - now - might not have so much then.
All I can say to Christina, Maria and the others is hang on you’ll get there your own way and you are in for many pleasant surprises on the journey! Brave to chop - yes! Brave to tough it out with root growth - you bet! Whether you choose evolution of revolution - doesn’t matter.
I have been kept away from full participation here lately with work and pc issues but I love the way this forum has grown and read the new posts everyday - can’t wait to jump back in regularly.
Note on a prior post - Maria - you got a good tip - Ouidad is awesome for curly haired gals. If you don’t live in NY their website can refer you to a local operator trained in the Ouidad method and offering their product line.
You gals are great!
Posted by on 04/10 at 01:32 AM
Good morning ladies
Just read all the latest posts. Lots of food for thought there. The sense of camaraderie is so strong and I much appreciate it. I have decided for the meantime to play the waiting game and let the process lead me.
This decision alone is a revelation for me as I usually feel obliged to be the leader and take responsibilty, even when I don’t want to.
Morningstar- thanks for suggestion re. Ouidad. I don’t live in the USA but I will check out website for products.
Elizabeth- on re-reading my earlier post, I realise the comment about you looking good even with a bag over your head could have been misconstrued. It was meant to be an acknowledgement of your good looks. Note to self- be careful, Scottish humour might not translate easily into American culture!! We do a great line in sarcasm but it is not meant to be nasty.
Diana- just received notification my book has been put in the post. Looking forward to its arrival.
I’ll go now and as I believe they say in America, “have a nice day y’all”
Posted by on 04/10 at 02:38 AM
Ladies,
I am just in awe of all the support/advise/suggestions that you ladies have given me. In my eyes, Elizabeth and 12Green what you did was really gutsy (I know that some don’t like to hear that word)! I know for you Elizabeth, your choice was made for you.
I guess the past couple of days, I’ve been feeling an urgency to do something because we are going away at the end of the month and I don’t want to be bothered with trying to hide the gray areas. It would be so much easier to just get it all cut off - but can I live with that? I don’t know. I’m trying to take into account all the sage advise everyone has offered and make my decision.
Diana, thank you for this wonderful forum that you have created - it has been such a comfort to know that you are not alone in this scary process.
I do know one thing for sure, I wouldn’t think of going back the other way, and that’s big for me! So thanks Ladies! I’ll get some pics together and send them in!
Posted by on 04/10 at 05:14 AM
Good Mornin’ Maria!
Awe shucks...I LOVE friendly banter or should I say “witt”. I thought it was funny and...I thought “long and hard” on my comeback
Had I not had PPD I might have found this site YEARS down the road! Had I been able to blend the gray while growing it out...I would have...I am one of “those girly girls...” I love playing “dress-up”, it was a heart wrenching thing for me to “loose my hair”
I now realize I didn’t “loose” anything!!! I won a new perspective on the character of who I am...what truly is valuable to me. I’m glad that the PPD happened when it did...I am able to grow in the experience while I’m still young/young at heart!
Have a wonderful day Maria!
Posted by on 04/10 at 05:18 AM
Hi Christina,
Dianas words of encouragement were sooo wise! You’ll know when/if your ready to “cut"…
There are so many cute shorter cuts out there! Remember the “Hillary Swank” cut...she went from super long to super short! There’s a playfullness and a sassy feeling that you get when your hair is short...not shaved, but short and playfull.
Your heart will lead you on this one...You’ve already taken the “biggest step”!
Keep the faith...have fun trying to figure out what you’re gonna wear on your trip
Posted by on 04/10 at 05:38 AM
Okay, Elizabeth....it’s all your fault. :o) Here you sit with your long, beautiful, silver hair; all the while tempting everyone. Just kidding, of course.
But really, we “transitioners” have to remind ourselves that there is no quick miracle to this. Unfortunately, we cannot walk into a salon with multi-colored hair and come out with a long head of silver hair. Elizabeth paid her price and now we must pay ours. But in the whole scope of our lives, it really isn’t such a long time. Patience is a great virtue and it probably does all of us some good to acquire more or it.
I love Diana, and this site, and all the ladies who are very supportive...but really, we all have to find our unique ways to transition. We have different personalities with different life-styles. There is no pressure to do it any certain way. Let’s simply be who we are, and one day we will find ourselves looking great in our own unique shade of silver.
Posted by on 04/10 at 06:10 AM
Can I hear an “AMEN”!!!
Spoken well Greeneyes! There are so my different ways to walk this “journey”!
The common theme is...we are walking it together...encouraging,supporting,and with great anticipation watching the beauty unfold! Not walking alone… that’s the BEST part!
Posted by on 04/10 at 06:26 AM
We live in such a world of instant gratification that we expect things to happen instantaneously. I know when I started out in this process, I guess I was pretty naive and thought my hairdresser could just put something on my hair to bring it my natural gray. Boy, was I in for a surprise. I thought about it 7 years ago and just couldn’t go through with it. In this day and age, this process just seems so primitive!
It truly is a lesson in patience!!
Posted by on 04/10 at 07:05 AM
Christine,
You are so right!
I coach for the High Schools here in town and the “instant gratification” mentality is a problem. I live /coach by the motto,"no pain...no gain”. Sometimes it takes YEARS of really hard work to attain the goals that they have set, some give up way to soon.
They miss out on the priveldge of being able to look back and see how far they have come. I guess for us..."pain" doesn’t mean physical as much as it is emotional.
I also couldn’t agree with you more about the “primitive” comment! We can put the man on the moon...but we can’t seem to duplicate and capture the beauty of natural gray...isn’t that amazing! Every other color can be duplicated! But Gray… has to come from within! Now there’s a “thought for the day"(though that silverizing looks pretty cool)! But I think that it’s used after the gray has already been established.
Ahhhh Patience...1 word means sooo much!
Posted by on 04/10 at 07:48 AM
Hi,
O.K. as I am trying to survive this snowy weekend, here in the middle of a Blizzard...and I’m not talking ice cream! I started to really dig into Diana’s book…
I realize now… that the color gray can be duplicated. The hard part is knowing the pattern of how the gray is growing out! Is it just gray in the front? Is it “salt and pepper” through out...It’s an artform to say the least to be able to weave the color gray with the natural gray that is trying to be FREE from hair dyes!
Everytime I pick up Diana’s book or toodle around on gglg it’s an adventure in itself
Gotta love it!
Posted by on 04/12 at 04:20 PM
Hi Elizabeth --
You’re right—it is an artform to enhance gray, and that’s why the pros have lots of tricks up their sleeves—like highlighting, lowlighting, glazing, color weaving, etc. But duplicating gray? Not really. If a woman only wants a certain percentage of gray in her hair—and no more—she’ll usually have some kind of a color process. Otherwise, if she wants to go completely gray, it’s almost impossible to achieve unless the hair is stripped of color. Gray and silver are light shades—so you’ve gotta get most of the color out of your hair. And then, of course, you’ll have the roots—in reverse. Dark roots and silver strands. Not a good solution! 
If your hair is already pretty white to begin with, you can still enhance it by weaving in subtle highlights, or lowlights, to make it a little more dramatic. But all this is best left in the hands of a good colorist. Hope this is clearer. D.
Posted by on 04/12 at 05:32 PM
That makes a lot of sense Diana...Thank you for clearing up the “gray mystery” for me! There’s really no easy way out...tricks of the trade can enhance the gray...but really, it just has to grow. “Enhancing” and “duplicating” are 2 different things…
Thank you for helping me out on this one!
Posted by on 04/12 at 05:45 PM
Elizabeth, can I ask you a question? Talking about “enhancing” and “duplicating” I wondered if in the holiday 2007 photo, if you had the hair around your face lightened or was this the way in which your hair decided to transition? All your photos are amazing; it just struck me that in this particular photo there seemed more lightness around your face. I met someone the other day who over the years let her hair go salt and pepper. She decided she wanted more salt just around her face so she sees a colorist 3 times a year to lighten just that area. It looks terrific on her.
Posted by on 04/12 at 08:35 PM
Good Morning Shara,
Due to PPD,I am unable to use any colorant in my hair. Sometimes my hair catches natural light in a picture and it sets the silver around my face on “fire” and it looks really bright.
I am 90% white/silver around my face and about 70-75% gray at the back of my head. I have been fortunate as to how my gray/silver has grown out. I sure would like to see more of the silver start to come in towards the back, but at least I have it where I can see it
I love the concept of “silverizing” and “enhancing”. I loved the before and after makeovers in Dianas book. It’s an artform for sure to know how to “enhance” the silver. I bet your friend just glows! We get hair cuts to “frame” our face...if you can “enhance” the silver color around your face, I say “go for it”.
Posted by on 04/13 at 05:44 AM
Elizabeth, thanks for the insight as well as inspiration. I think I need to work on patience and just let nature take its course, at least for the time being.
Posted by on 04/13 at 08:15 AM
Hey Shara!
Nature looks great with new, red, stainless steel laiden cars
Posted by on 04/13 at 11:29 AM
I’m all for a new car accessory, but make mine a RED JEEP WRANGLER! LOL…
Lori
Posted by on 04/13 at 01:18 PM
Hey Lori!
Will you take me “muddin”! I’m all about the mud!
Posted by on 04/13 at 01:22 PM
Oh! Love the curls!!! Curls always make me feel more feminine for some reason. Plus, I love the way curls shine. Great look!
Posted by on 05/05 at 07:56 AM
Thanks Greeneyes..it was a lot of fun!
It sure didn’t take very long, I wrapped my hair dry in those little pink sponge curlers and left them in for about 45min. (I was to impatient to wait any longer) The only thing I would do different is put some product in my hair before I rolled it… the curls came out within a few hours.
Gotta play...no matter what the length...I think of it as a fun adventure!
So...have fun!!!
Posted by on 05/05 at 04:57 PM
Elizabeth, I love that curly look of yours. The positive about long hair is that it gives you more options. I know during my transition I’ll be going shorter lengths to help speed the process though down the line, I know I’ll want to go back to my below the shoulder length hair. I agree with the other ladies who have shared that you don’t have to be a teenager or in your twenties to have long hair....you do what works for you! Thank you for sharing your journey as it truly helps us all.
Posted by on 05/06 at 02:51 PM
Hi there Shara!!
Hey...I just read your “coffee” story! Boy I tell ya...there a few out there that are “colorblind”! I was just doing some “history” reading (hidden hobby;-) and “white” hair was a sign of wealth! The “wigs” and the white powder for hair...Marie Antionette!
If I’m not mistaken the lawyers in England still wear the silver/white wigs to court!
So...get fiesty...empowered...wear your silver “crown” with pride
As for the “long vs short” I say that we are “trail blazers” bringing a whole new look,confidence, and class to gray!
Hair pieces are a great way to transition back to longer hair...helps keep the “my hair isn’t growing fast enough” blues away.
I agree with you, I don’t plan on “letting myself go” anytime soon either!
Keep the faith Shara...march on!
Posted by on 05/06 at 06:18 PM
Elizabeth, I have to say, the gray looks great, but I think you look better w/ the straight hair. Just my opinion though.
Posted by on 05/06 at 07:52 PM
Yep...I agree...and it’s also time consuming to set all those rollers!
But, I also like to play and try new things...it’s a great way to do something just for me, and my girls love to play around with hair too. It was a fun “hair” adventure for a couple of hours
My girls have been wanting to put a bunch of braids in my hair...that could be interesting when I take them out!
Ahhhh… let the hair adventure begin!
Posted by on 05/08 at 08:34 AM
I must say your gray has made your blue eyes stand out beautifully!!
Posted by on 05/08 at 06:45 PM
Good evening Yoginidiva,
Thank you for your kind words...Are you new to the GGLG site? If so...welcome!!! You have found an incredible treasure in GGLG...enjoy all the beauty that this site has to offer!
Have a great evening!
Posted by on 05/08 at 07:11 PM
Thanks Elizabeth!
Been here for awhile and have been reading the book too. My gray is peek-a-booing through my black dyed hair but it’s still pretty short. I love checking the site for new pics. Guess I’ll be posting my story as soon as I cut off the rest of the dye.
You have a great evening too!
Posted by on 05/08 at 07:15 PM
Elizabeth-
Your curls look so awesome! Wowie!! If you don’t mind me saying..."You are a totally hot woman!!” You look so young and vivacious. Stunning…
Jade
Posted by on 05/08 at 08:59 PM
Jade~
It’s great to hear from you! Thank you for the compliment!
Well..."where have you been all my life”...I’ve missed seeing your comments on GGLG. I know! You’ve been on some exotic vacation with your long gorgeous silver white hair glistening in the sun, listening to the waves serenade you as they dance there way to the shore…
One can only hope...sounds good to me
To quote Morningstar..."TGIF"!!!!
Have a great day and weekend!
Posted by on 05/09 at 04:11 AM
Yoginidiva,
It’s nice to meet you
“peek-a-booing” is a great way to describe what your silver/gray is doing! Isn’t Dianas book a great read, I find new things everytime I pick it up.
I Look forward to hearing more about you and your journey...have a great weekend!
Posted by on 05/09 at 04:26 AM
Hello Elizabeth.
With your old, coloured hair you looked pretty but like everyone else. With your silver hair you are a goddess, so beautiful. I’ve recently gone for a very short crop rather like the one you had and I’m looking forward to seeing it transition to long again but this time stunning silver long hair. You are an inspiration.
Sharon (moonlit_hair)
Posted by on 05/09 at 10:55 AM
Hi Sharon,
Ohhh… thank you for your sweet compliments!
I liked having the short croppy cut but I love having it the length that it is now. I’m not a “fan” of the different stages you go through when trying to grow it from short to long.
I remember thinking..."If I can just push it back behind my ears"… “if I can just get it into a little tiny ponytail so I can attatch a hair piece"..."if it would just grow out long enough that I gets past my chin”...and so the story goes!
I had a friend who made me promise that I would not cut my hair until I was 40...no exceptions other than the routine trim! At times, it was that promise that kept me on the path of growing it out. I turn 40 this summer...and for the very first time in my life I have long hair!!!
So, as you start to grow out your silver locks you have a “kindred spirit” cheering you on! I look forward to hearing the “hair milestones”
Have a great evening Moonlit_hair (love the name;-)
Posted by on 05/09 at 02:11 PM
Elizabeth - Speaking of growing out hair - right now I can only get a scrawny ponytail, and most of my hair won’t reach it. :o) I thought I would cut my hair quite short for transitioning, but don’t think I want to go any shorter. It may sound crazy, but I miss having to brush my hair out of my eyes, or off my face, or feeling my hair on my shoulders. I’ve had medium to long hair most of my life and guess it’s just the way I like it. After transitioning, I will let mine grow out to at least shoulder length.
It’s funy how we like what we like! Either long or short, or somewhere in between.
Posted by on 05/10 at 06:31 AM
Greeneyes,
Most of my life my hair was shorter than the pic. that is shown with my hair auburn...I just did not have the patience to let it grow past my shoulders.
I’m sure that you are definately counting the months for your hair to be on it’s way to medium/long! Your hair looks like it has a wonderful texture to it...I can’t wait to see the silver flow
Does your hair grow fast? I really believed for 30+ years that I could not grow long hair...I thought it was too thin and fine to grow (at least that is what I had been told).
My hair stylist says that I have more to grow if I want to! I do...I do! Maybe I can get another 6 inches outa my head.
When you had long hair what did you do to keep the ends from “stressing and breaking”? I’ve been using the Ojon product that Diana has mentioned and Aveda “Blue Malva” to keep the “yellow tones” at bay. I also have the brush that Diana mentions in the product section and I LOVE it...Just 2 days ago I purchased a round brush from Aveda and it has worked wonders when I want to pull my hair straight. It has almost eliminated my need for a flat iron, I might use the flat iron on a couple of pieces...but that’s about it. The texture of my hair is “fine” so I think that helps too.
Posted by on 05/10 at 07:30 AM
Greeneyes,
One more thing...If I could have transitioned without cutting my hair super short...adding hightlights to soften the “skunk line” I would have! I think that there are some great “blending” options out there...just need to find a stylist who is an “artist” when it comes to highlighting/blending. I went “down to the wood” because of my allergic reaction...no blending for me 
I’m amazed at how fast the transition went for Carol! She didn’t go super short and she had been coloring black! I think she focused more on layering. It sounds to me like that is what you have been doing...layering…
Posted by on 05/10 at 07:42 AM
Yes, I am anxious to say good-bye to all the dye and GROW!!!
My hair texture can be frustrating...my hair is thick and then coarse to boot. I have some wave and frizz, though not enough curl to let it go natural. Think bushy. :o) I keep layers, whether long or short, to help with this. I have learned to enjoy my hair, but there is no way it would be as straight or smooth as yours. I think the flat iron will be my friend for life. :o) That is, unless the hair of the 80’s returns - I am really good at big hair!
My hair does grow quickly, which is a good thing, especially now!
I never had a problem with the ends splitting or breaking; but I kept my hair shorter than yours. My “before” picture is the length I typically kept, and I got regular trims.
My stylist wasn’t open to doing anything but lowlighting for my transition. In the beginning I thought she was being obstinate, but have come to realize she is smart! I have a lot of dark left, and it really helped match my natural dark brown. I truly forgot how dark my hair really is. Since my gray is going to be dark, my hair hasn’t looked really obvious from a distance. You have to be fairly close to see the color difference; sort of like being unable to tell if someone is wearing black or navy until you get close. So, even though I have been whiney at times, my transition really hasn’t been too difficult.
I agree! I was surprised how quickly Carol transitioned! Very inspirational!
So, you’re going another 6 inches! How fun! Guess you started growing and can’t stop! :o) I plan to go back to my “before” length, unless I end up like you and can’t stop!
Posted by on 05/10 at 08:09 AM
I have a good friend that has super thick and coarse hair...she also loves her flat iron!
Oh yeah...lowlights make a lot of sense. It sure does sound like the transitioning part of this hair journey that you are on is going to go well for you. It sure didn’t take Carol long for it to look wispy and blended…
I really love the hairstyle in your before picture..it frames your face beautifully! You’ll be there in no time! It seems like in the summer hair even grows faster...could be just my imagination or wishful thinking
Yep...I’m goin’ for the “long haul”...we’ll see. I’m done with my “promise” this July...who knows, I could get that “wild hair” moment and go for a “new” style/cut.
mmmmmmm....we’ll see
P.S. I LOVE 80’s hair!!!! and of course you can’t love the 80’s w/o loving the band “Journey” hehehe
Posted by on 05/10 at 08:26 AM
After for sure.
Posted by on 05/14 at 04:14 PM
Happy 40th! You look wonderful and I think your hair looks even prettier than your last photos. There is no dye that would make you look as beautiful as you are now!
Posted by on 07/26 at 07:04 AM
Thank you Greeneyes…
I feel like I am finally becoming the woman that I was meant to be!! The deep current of freedom and peacefulness that I feel in my heart is worth more than anything money can buy or manufacture!
Life is good!
Posted by on 07/26 at 07:12 AM
Happy Birthday Elizabeth. You look just amazing!!!
Posted by on 07/26 at 01:33 PM
Happy 40 Elizabeth from someone half your age. I hope when I’m 40 I look half that fabulous. Gray hair rocks!
Kendall
Posted by on 07/26 at 02:44 PM
Happy Birthday Elizabeth. You look absolutely beautiful and are one of my inspirations. Keep sending the photos in.
Sharon
Posted by on 07/26 at 04:10 PM
PS Elizabeth,
A few days ago I had the ‘wobbles’ about my hair and was worried it made me look old. When I see your photos I know that silver does not mean old, there is nothing frumpy about you.
Sharon
Posted by on 07/26 at 04:18 PM
Thanks Sharon
I have definately had those “wobble” days too! I have to say I don’t like those days very much. Those days became less and less as I embraced my own style, I tend to gravitate to an eclectic/free spirit style of clothing and look.
I’ve loved and have been inspired by seeing the pics of the 50+ generation. I even have the picture of “Dame Helen” pinned up at my computer(it’s in the current issue of people magazine).
At any age we can have beautiful hair...skin...body...it’s how we take care of ourselves and more importantly how WE see ourselves. I can honestly say that I am not “afraid” of aging any longer...I am excited.
Even when I look through all the pictures that have been submitted, I really believe that the gray/silver is so attractive and striking! The amazing part, is the natural glow and youthfullness that you can see on everyones face!
Sharon, you look beautiful!!!!
Youthfullness is not something we put on...it is what we allow to be freed from inside our heart!
Posted by on 07/27 at 06:27 AM
Elizabeth I have a confession.... whereas you have a picture of Dame Helen by your computer I myself have inspirational photographs. One is Yasmina Rossi, and the other is you!
Sharon
Posted by on 07/27 at 10:28 AM
Sharon,
You’ve surprised me and blessed me...Thank you
Posted by on 07/27 at 11:27 AM
Happy Happy Birthday, Elizabeth! You look like a million! I agree that your hair looks more beautiful than ever...and the look of peace and confidence you have is icing on the birthday cake! You are truly an inspiration!
~dede
Posted by on 07/28 at 02:02 PM
Happy Birthday Elizabeth! You look absolutely stunning, as usual. The silvery white hair enhances your beauty to a higher level of visual excitement. (Can you tell I’m an art director or what?)
Posted by on 07/28 at 04:15 PM
I agree with everyone. You are absolutely radiant. Beautiful hair and beautiful family. Cover of Diana’s next book?
Posted by on 07/29 at 03:59 PM
Hey thanks Dede, Jade, and Sallee!
What a fun surprise to come “home” to!! Gosh...it’s amazing how much “sunshine” a couple of kind comments/words can bring to your day! Thanks for making my day that much brighter!
I’ve been chasing my kids around for the past few days...this of course includes the “crisis” of the kitty that was found and needed a place to stay until my daughter and her friends found it a home! And lets not forget that they ALL needed to stay overnight so they could ALL keep an eye on it! It’s been quite a summer....hehehehe
Dede, I have found myself looking at your summer vacation pic. thinking to myself “I wish I were there”! You look so rested and peaceful! and...beautiful!
Jade!!!! I think of you often! Actually everytime I pick up my coconut oil jar, and yes! I totally can see you being an art director...and a GOOD one!!
Sallee, I have a funny story for you in reguards to “roots”..I’m gonna type it somewhere else though,it might get a little long...but I was reminded of the story when you shared how tall are and no one being able to see the top of your head. I’ll put it in “Friends and Family”
Have a great day Silver Sassy Comrads!
Posted by on 07/30 at 06:37 AM
Happy B-Day Elizabeth! I love finding new pictures...you are definitely a major inspiration for so many of us.
Enjoy the rest of the summer!- Helen G
Posted by on 08/06 at 05:52 PM
Hello Elizabeth, this is newbie Lulu, You look amazing!! I showed my 34 year old Daughter your story and she too thought you looked so much better with your silver hair. She has been noticing silver in her own hair but refuses to color, in fact she is pushing me to go for chop!! Happy Birthday 
Posted by on 08/10 at 02:37 PM
A belated happy 40th, Elizabeth! You make 40 look amazing. I’m past that particular milestone, myself. About to hit 43 with all natural colour for the first time since I was 18! Can’t wait. I truly hope my hair has some more growing in it..I had the longest hair I ever had at age 27 and, like you, didn’t think I could/should grow it long at “this age.” But I’m gonna give it a try...Thanks again for the inspiration!
Posted by on 08/15 at 11:08 AM
Belated Happy Birthday, Elizabeth! You look absolutely gorgeous. I’m sending in some new “progress” pix to Diana, so you can see them in a day or two in the Newbies section. I’m hopeful that I’ll be able to get all the color cut out of my hair by my 50th birthday next February. ---- Anita
Posted by on 08/15 at 09:16 PM
Good Morning!
Thank you everyone for the “happy birthdays”!
I’ve been a little outa the GGLG loop for awhile and soooooo much has happened around here!!!
I’ve seen incredible “newbies” haircuts and new “newbies”! Not to mention the GREAT vacation pictures! I wish I could fit into everyones luggage! Awesome video of Diana! All of you look amazing! It’s exciting to see and feel like a part of this amazing group of women!
I have been trying to catch up on all the “chats” too! 
That’s a huge task! It’s really a privilege to read the heart felt and fiesty support that you all have and give to one another~ It truly does take a village to raise a “Great Gray”! And...we are all the better for it!
Hope everyone has been enjoying their summer!
Warm smiles to ALL
Posted by on 08/17 at 06:43 AM
Just saw the photo with your daughter on the More magazine website. Both of you look like you are really enjoying the moment. Forever couldn’t be a better word. A big vote from me!
Good luck!
Shara
Posted by on 08/25 at 05:15 PM
A big vote from me Elizabeth. You certainly are a beautiful example of “going gray looking great.” A truly natural beauty. Good luck to you.
Barb
Posted by on 08/25 at 05:33 PM
Thank you Shara and Barb,
I really appreciate everyones encouragement and support.
This past year, I have been experiencing an “awakening” in my life! It’s been humbling, amazing, and overwhelming at times...but I can honestly say that I have never felt so alive and present!
I love having this new found freedom and confidence to enjoy and explore new adventures. When I was “forced” to go gray, I would have NEVER imagined that it was to be the beginning of a journey! A journey that would take me to a place of amazing transformation in my heart and life.
There’s NO going back!
Posted by on 08/26 at 06:44 AM
Hi Elizabeth,
Got my mom voting for you now, too. She says she thinks you’ll do well as you’re “a very attractive woman”.
No going back for me, either, although there are days when I’m not dazzled by my gray. Today being one of them…
Posted by on 08/26 at 06:48 AM
Hi Lisa,
I still have those days too...They go right a long with the “I feel fat” days!
I think that we are exposed to a huge amount of pressure to be and look a certain way. It’s hard at times not to let it affect us!
I guess that’s one of the main reasons why it takes a “village” to raise a Great Gray!
Power in numbers!
Posted by on 08/26 at 07:00 AM
You’re right. No way I’d have gotten this far without knowing all of you have either “Been there, done that” or are going through it all with me.
Posted by on 08/26 at 07:02 AM
It’s the Silver Sisterhood!
Posted by on 08/26 at 07:10 AM
Hello Elizabeth, I just keep voting, good luck! Lisa, just a note to say please cheer up, you helped me out with your very kind comments and “right on” opinions when I was having my blah day. Just go back to your vacation photos if you want to be dazzled!!!!!
Posted by on 08/26 at 08:12 AM
Hi Elizabeth, you are so right about the pressure to look a certain way. I was always the odd ball , so the gray hair has been just one more way I’ve always “stuck out” from the crowd. Did any of you notice the forum on the MORE website about going gray? I added my two cents worth and gave the GGLG website. Now I’m going to go vote again.
Posted by on 08/26 at 08:56 AM
Hi Sallee,
No I did not notice the Forum on Gray...I’ll go look! Thanks for the “vote”...geesh...it sounds like I’m running for office!LOL
I’ve always moved to the beat of a different drummer too! Here… there is no “oddball”!
Gotta love it!
Posted by on 08/26 at 09:10 AM
Hi Elizabeth, I just received the email about you being a More finalist and I think if everyone could see the photos of you on this website, you would be the definite winner. I voted for you today and will try to remember to vote for you everyday. Your story encouraged me to go gray and stay that way. You are truly beautiful and I hope you win.
Posted by on 08/26 at 09:46 AM
Hello Elizabeth
Good luck with MORE, I’ve been voting every day. Whatever happens in the competition you ARE a winner in my eyes.
Sharon
Posted by on 08/26 at 10:23 AM
Ah yes, the beat of the different drummer, I know it well. I do believe we’re part of a huge change taking place and it’s really exciting! This is actually the first website I’ve ever really felt comfortable posting on. There is just such a connection with all of you. And you’re right about it being hard to keep up with everything going on here!Actually, Diana posted on the More blog about going gray and then I saw anothter woman had mentioned the site as well. I just went on to vote and you have the second most votes. It says they’re updated every 2 hours. You should enter their 40+ model search. It seems they always pick someone closer to 40 as the winner but I don’t believe they’ve ever given it to a woman with “gray” hair. They always include one in the runner-ups but never the winner. You are gorgeous and it would be so great to see you win and represent all of us Silver Sirens, Glamourous Grays, Wicked Whites and all the fabulous variations thereof!
Posted by on 08/26 at 10:39 AM
Hi Sallee,
It’s a good thing I love to dance...I’m groovin and movin to that drum beat all the time! I agree with you about this site...I had NEVER blogged or chatted on line B4 finding GGLG, there is a really sweet “sisterhood” here, and I love it! I too put in a comment and mentioned GGLG in the More blogg on Gray Hair.
Diana has been the “pebble” in the still waters! The ripple effect that it has had on our lives is simply amazing!!!I know that this site has made a huge impact in my life!
Thank you for your encouragement and generous compliments! I grew up the “ugly duckling” and saw myself that way until I was well into my 30’s. I have come a long way in how I see myself. The 1st thing that started the “healing” process was going gray! I’m going to be forever grateful for that allergic reaction that I had...that experience began the journey of learning how to embrace who I am!
P.S. I love the “Wicked Whites”!!! You came up with 3 good ones!
Posted by on 08/26 at 11:21 AM
Sharon,
You bless me with your encouragement and comments! I sure hope someday we are all able to meet, cuz I’d love to give you a great big HUG!!!!
Posted by on 08/26 at 11:26 AM
I find myself daydreaming at times getting to meet all of you! I can only imagine the laughter and chatter that would be heard! And of course...plenty of HUGS to go around!
Someday...and boy will that be an AWESOME day!!!!!
Posted by on 08/26 at 11:29 AM
Abouttobegray,
Thank you I was wondering...now that you are gray have you sent in your picture to Diana? Sometimes I get confused with “screen” names and someones “real” name. I sure would love to see a picture of you!
Have a wonderful day!
Posted by on 08/26 at 11:51 AM
Elizabeth, This past weekend I was with a friend I hadn’t seen in fourteen years. She loved my gray hair and thought I actually looked younger than I did way back when I was a young mother. I will post my picture soon and hope it will make someone else’s transition easier. Every time I tell someone about this site, I tell them to look for your pictures. Your “all natural” beauty is truly inspiring. Thanks for your responses. Debbie
Posted by on 08/26 at 03:43 PM
Elizabeth, you sound like my daughter, Jennifer. She was a swan in waiting. In fact I wrote a piece about her and in it talk about her transition from ugly duckling to the beautiful swan she is and she still has a hard time seeing herself that way. I have to get her pictures up since she is letting her hair go natural. It will be really fun for me to watch it as I didn’t get the chance to watch mine naturally transition. I’m curious how long it will take for her to be completely gray, as she is not growing out a color, it’s just her hair changing naturally. And I know what you mean about getting confused with the screen/real names. I keep having to go back and forth so I can see who everyone is. btw, you’re in second place in the contest. I’ll be voting again tomorrow.
Posted by on 08/26 at 03:51 PM
Hi Elizabeth- I’m voting for you too! You’re right about this site being like talking to your sisters!
good luck
Helen G
Posted by on 08/26 at 06:52 PM